here's to hoping you find the serenity to try something new today.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90WD_ats6eE

Sending you hugs and support through this difficult time I feel the same way I feel like I am trying to find people to help me through the hardest time of my life but seems everyone is going thru their own stuff right now no one available or nearby it’s a very lonely place. Reach out if you wanna talk, I am here. Hugs

That’s how I feel. Everyone has their own problems. Also my husband doesn’t want to hear anything I have to say. His response is always right back at me that “he has so much more to worry about and what problems do I (me ) have?” So I don’t even tell him about my anxiety. I just make believe I’m okay in front of him.

If you need a shoulder to cry on, I'm here for you. Never give up hope.

Scott

That's why i love the DS groups. In a busy world, where it feels no one cares - the DS peers remind us that we are not alone. Hang in there (hug)

For sure. Thankfully I came get on any time of day and express how I feel.
I am just feeling down
I know everyone tells me I need to find my way after this empty nest.
I just wish I was a little closer to my kids (distance wise )
Just to see them maybe once every few weeks or even once a month.

I share very little with my husband about my anxiety. It's not that he doesn't care. It's that partners make lousy peer support, in my opinion. Too close to us to provide the kind of meaningful support only peers can give.

I don't think we fool anyone when we pretend we are ok. That's the lie we tell ourselves. My opinion only of course.

It takes an act of will sometimes to break our own cycles. Sure we have friends and famly and peers but at the end of the day, we are responsible for our own self. No one owes us anything and no one can do it for us. Hope you find the courage to change your perceptions, thoughts and situation. My parents are dead. Two of my three brothers live far away. My husband's kids live across the country. This is life. Get busy creating a life for yourself. It is not too late. That is totally within your control. You just have to do it. Whether you're alone or surrounded by people, problems usually still remain until they're addressed. Until then, how can you really ever have peace of mind?

early into my psychotherapy, before my first pregnancy, i created dioramas of some of my meanest psychoses(pl) to channel and focus the issues. the diorama i did repeatedly was my wish garden. i don't remember what i wished that half a century ago, but i do remember the exercise helped me lay to rest some of my more delusional blockages to healing progress. it's okay to have wishes, but not so wise to put your life on hold until all those wishes come true.

i find myself wondering if it would be a helpful exercise for you.
just wondering. . .

I know that I have been going through the same thing for such a long time. I originally wrote on DS because of empty nest and my anxiety. And so much more has come out since then.

I need to fix how unhappy I am. Because I just woke up again and don’t want to deal with the day. When I was away, except for dog issues, I didn’t wake up with this feeling of unhappiness because my family (kids and significant others) were there. ). Not because I was on vacation. If we just stayed hiome with everyone would have been fine by me.

So yes I need to find my own happiness. It’s really important because right now I am so unhappy.

I may hate the weekends more than anything else.
It’s so quiet here.
We have (not that I agreed to) a major project going on in our yard. That kind of prevents other things from going on.
Just glad we had that family trip planned before this project.

Really sad and unhappy and depressed and unmotivated. I’ve already been outside sprayed weeds. Cleaned up kitchen done laundry. Took care of the dogs.

This yard project also made it so much worse for me. It makes me feel more trapped.

I understand what you are feeling. I moved to a state for a promotion where I have no family or friends. Nobody except my mom has visited me in over 5 years. I quit the job to find something that allowed me more freedom to live where I want, but I’m not working right now since it was a bait and switch job I took and left. I hate it and I have anxiety especially in the mornings as well. You are not alone. Life is so hard sometimes…

That was my day today.

I have days like that too. I hope you will feel better soon.

Yes very quiet weekend.
Thank you for all the responses. I’m ready for bed but already think about the morning again.