Hiya everyone this message is kind of a combination of me venting and also seeking advice regarding a situation. I initially met someone online via a friend app who was looking for friends. At the time I was living with my parents and I felt very alone, to visit this person and chat became a form of escape but as time passed i realised they have alot of undelt with problems plus personality wise they don't think fully about other people and push bounaries quite a lot.
Initially this didn't bother me as I had no association with it but I then, through offering advice, got invovled in the sense that I wanted to help them which then meant that I took on alot of their problems (which I didn't need as I have my own).
I realised I no longer enjoyed their company as I felt more relaxed at home than when talking to them plus when ever our interactions finished I would feel drained and I realised that they were quite demanding as a person.
Examples would be that if they visited my house it would get to the point where I would have to ask them to leave and even when visiting their house they would ask me to stay longer. Initially I believed it was because they were lonely but it gets to the point where they didn't even think about how the other person felt, even after establishing a boundary they would try and push it and need a reason for you to want to go home or for them to leave. Initially I thought it was because they couldn't read the room but I have openly established bounaries and they insistently try to push them and its tiring.
One aspect that tipped me over the edge was that I had arranged a time to meet them and they outwardly said that it wasn't long enough and wanted more time, they even told me I was spending too much time with my family.
On top of that they have racial issues which I don't want to be around and negative mentalities regarding relationships where they deem it ok to see someone who is clearly in a relationsihp with another person. Their overall mentality is inconsiderate and selfish from my experience.
They have also claimed that I am their therapist and I have openly told them I am not and they need to go see a professional.
I've reduced contact with them but I'm contemplating whether or not to just clean break it off. Any time they talk to me I feel angry because the way they talk is focussed on only their needs and I feel this pressure as if I am in the wrong for doing my own thing.
The thing is that they have already said that a lot of people have left in the past and from my experiences I understand why. I want to help but they just take, take, take and wonder why people dissapear.
I've openly said that I'm going through a tough time right now with my own mental health and they have asked when I can arrange a call. It's very hard to explain via reading this text as it can seem like a nice geasture but the message clearly shows that they want to call for their own needs rather than a middle ground, give and take situation. They have shown no sympathy regarding what I'm going through and yes they don't have to but how can they then expect me to want to call them if its not a supportive friendship?
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