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How do you stop being so hard on yourself?

CherylMc
CherylMc

Hello - I'm soo hard on myself. I tend to beat myself up when I make a mistake, especially at work, or something doesn't work out the way I hoped it would. 

jny
jny
We are all human and we all make mistakes. Be kind to yourself.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
A lot of people are like that. I am like that too. Part of the reason is out society. We were told to be perfect. We have to get good grades at school. Otherwise we will fail. And that is bad. We will have no future. We have to be perfect at work. Or we will get fire.
Try hypnosis and NLP. I think beating up on yourself is not good for you health.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
What I do to remind myself to be kind to me is I list the things I do to help me.

Best wishes as you find your better balance.
Flashreturns
Flashreturns
Try any book by Albert Ellis ,- how to stop being miserable about anything. You obviously have a rigid set of rules that says you can't mess up. Rules that have no real basis in reality. Read the book.
arfie
arfie
I apologize to myself when I catch myself self-flagellating. I apologize as often as needed. Healing takes what it takes.

The first time I worked the Alanon 12 steps, my sponsor was quite insistent that I place myself on the list of people I had harmed with my continual self-flagellation. The thought that my self-flagellation was abusive sent a powerful signal through my entire system, but the breakthrough was far from an instant cure.

Those amends are still in progress, one round at a time. I still abuse myself routinely, but I am far quicker to back off and be more compassionate when dealing with my own human frailties.

As a bonus, as I learn to be more gentle and tolerant of my own human frailties, I find myself with more compassion and tolerance to give away.

But that is me. . .

Gentle support while you find what works for you, Cheryl.
theatrediva
theatrediva
I am also too hard on myself about everything. It's a hard habit to break. I just try to tel myself that I love me and I am doing the best I can. Good luck to you.
JMEL86
JMEL86
Every time you're hard on yourself, imagine yourself as a child. Tell him/her how much you love and care about them, and that you know they do their best. It's "inner child" therapy and it works for the negative self-talk. We would never talk to children the way we talk to ourselves. So comfort, love and support your inner child (yourself) everyday!
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