There is a board for caring for elderly parents on here. I don't remember the name off hand.

Sometimes, just knowing you're not alone with this type of care giving can give you enough to push the anxiety into action.

i always find that when I have thunk the worst, and worked out how I will manage to cope with it, that the stress goes away.

So I always let myself think the worst. I let it happen, I let the feelings it brings happen, and i figure out what I will have to do. Once that's fully expressed, some kind of switch flicks in my head and I'm good to stop thinking about it.

And then I can get back to living.

I've already watched several loved ones die, some elderly, some, like my brother, who left this Earth at the tender, young age of 40, not so elderly. His death was the first and the most excruciating to watch. While each time it hurts like hell, each time the process gets a little more oddly comfortable. Main thing is to continue to be loving, so that love conquers the fear. Love is the only thing that transcends the grave, that we take with us when we're reunited with our loved ones on the other side, where they'll embrace us and thank us for our dutiful service in caring for them here.