Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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RiS
RiS

I'm 62 years old, divorced 10 years now after 30 years of being married. I became disabled and needed a wheelchair and he couldn't handle it.   A lot of shit has happened in the 10 years - too much to write about. Anyway, I've always thougtht of myself as depressed and been taking Effexor (now 75 mg.) but still feel very sad, cry all the time, and pray to go to sleep and die like my brother did. I'm too chicken to kill myself. Anyway, maybe I have anxiety? What's the difference? Will ask my doctor but just saw her and forgot.









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arfie
arfie
My biology studies convinced me that anxiety is critical, hard-wired part of the survival instinct. Most life forms on the planet suffer one form of anxiety or another. It is what causes a grazing deer to jerk its head up, ears perked at the slightest sound or smell.

Inside my personal skin, anxiety feels like part of my survival instinct. Life sucks, but somewhere in the confusion of hurt and fear, I still feel the drive to go on and the hope that things could be better. Depression is where I flat give up. I'm done. Please, Dear God, don't make me wake up in the morning.

So it *feels* to me. Gentle support while you find the words for your own feelings.
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Welcome aboard here. I am also on the Senior Health and Aging DS site. Would be glad to have you join us. Time for me to call it a night, but sending calming hugs your way.
Caty
Caty
You sound very brave and strong to me to have effectively endured such things. The things you have mentioned would be enough to cause anyone to be depressed, and you say there are many other things too. So first of all give yourself a break. I think it's normal to feel shitty when life gets shitty. After that I think you should try to connect with others - clubs, support groups, contact old friends etc. I imagine there are more people than you know who have disabilities and who are divorced. The hardest thing is suffering alone, and sharing life's burdens with people who can understand can make such a difference. Hugs
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