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hair buzz - venting

arfie
arfie

i've been dealing with head lice on two girls, grades first and fourth. the first round was 2020 when the eldest started pre-k. my first parenting career was all boys, so i was in shock to discover the inside view of raising girls. i worked field work in construction and engineering, so i didn't even have the womanly exposure to prepare me for this aspect of raising girls. this year's head lice have us all reduced to tears. literally. elementary school style tears. can the media image of the beautiful woman sniffling with care to not muss her make-up. i'm talking the floor kicking, empowerd barbie tantrum style of tears. add the quieter tears of heartbreak that their maternal aunt is threatening ostracation for the crime of head lice. they will probably not have the summer visit with the maternal family because of them.


there is only one known cure for head lice. shave your head. in my case, it was also a cure for the hot flashes of menopause. i have been using that cure since 1995. i no longer experience hot flashes, but i have grown quite fond of that clean, full exposure feel of a fresh buzz. i still shave my head just cause i like the way it feels. the lower maintenance rocks, too.


girl, howdy, the world disagrees. loudly. vociferously. prolifically. is it cultural progress that i no longer have to listen to sick cancer girl jokes after i buzz my head? keep your mean girl jabs away from my ailing sisters! ! ! for my two long-haired princesses, when they complain about the lice treatments, i quietly remind them that the cure is still available. maybe i should start bringing out the hair clippers before the treatment begins.


girl hair. . . explicame, por favor.


just venting. . .

hasty_05
hasty_05
Long ago, I had two girls with long hair. And lice was going through the school. The chemical stuff from the drugstore didn't work, or maybe it was prescription back then. So I found a "natural" treatment online that was heavy oils. You put this stuff on the hair/head and they wore a shower cap for several hours and they you used the lice comb and had to do hair washing a couple of times to get the oily stuff out. But it smothered the lice. This was all that worked for us.

It was a pain in the rear end.
AdelynRene
AdelynRene
I feel for you. Two years ago, had this fight with my then 12 year old daughter. She brought them home from her father's house. While I did not shave her entire head, I did shave the very underneath as she also didn't like brushing her hair back then (ended up with a lot of knots that the lice were hiding in). A lot of brushing out every night, and oils (as mentioned above).

My youngest also ended up getting them. But he enjoys being shaved. So much easier.

Now, they have a device that lasers the lice on contact. In the event my household has to deal with it again, I may purchase it just to try out a new toy?
BlueSky
BlueSky
I don't have any children, but I have done much baby sitting of nephews. I, too, don't know what raising girls is like, but I hear horror stories. I buzzed my hair for 15 or so years when I lived in Hawaii. I loved spending any free time I had at the beach, and trying to wash all the sand out of my hair was a pain in the ass. Keeping my hair buzzed solved that problem.
arfie
arfie
the laser i tried didn't work. nearly 6 years into this joy, i have lost track of why which treatments didn't work. i took the youngest to a lice clinic and she was traumatized by the treatment. the lice were back all too soon.

theoretically, the haircuts are the only significant difference between girl hair and boy hair. parenting wise, the diffs are HUGE.
arfie
arfie
thank you, bluesky. it is nice to meet a fellow female who takes a more pragmatic view of the girlie locks. what's with the feminine hair worship? i've wondered a time or fifty if it is genetic.
rmb
rmb
Maybe part of it is they just don’t want to be different or stand out from others. As an adult I don’t give a crap what others think . At that age I’m sure it was paramount. They’re little kids, coping skills aren’t fully developed and it must be pretty traumatic to them I’m sure. And their reaction pretty traumatic for you haha!
arfie
arfie
personally, i believe not wanting to stand out is ALL of it. hair is just a play pretty but it is not uncommon to find people, especially school age people, hiding actual gifts, like intelligence, etc., for the sake of not wanting to stand out.

update
the 10 year old girl volunteered to shave my head for me. i have grown quite addicted to the fresh clean feel of a buzz. the girl lice look clear for the moment, but after 6 years of this battle, i don't feel very confident. some of the macho girl cartoons have make-over guns they shoot their enemies with. do they have one of those for head lice?
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