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getting held back a year at school

cubegirl34
cubegirl34

so like it says, im getting held back at school. i had to go to a meeting on monday and the headteacher said shed talked to all off my teachers and all exept for one said that i was too far behind to catch up so they want me to be held back. so in september when i start my new school course (im going to be home schooled from sept) i will be starting this year all over again.



ive had like two feelings about it and its hard to explain. first i just felt like... blank. like nothing at all. i didnt feel any thing and thats werid for me coz thats never happened before. then after that i had a bad panic attack in the evening and i was crying a lot and really just im so scared that being held back is going to mess up evreything for me from now on. like i know exams were making my anxiety worse and now i dont have to do the exams so thats good but instead i have anxiety about what being held back is like. so i didnt get any better i just swapped one thing for another.



and i feel like i failed. coz really since feb ive been working as hard as i can so i wudnt get held back. its been like the worst thing i can think of happening and now its actually happened. i tried really hard and i wasnt good enough and its just not fair.

strong4me
strong4me
Please do not feel like your not good enough because that is not the case. Going to school can be really hard for kids. There is a lot of pressure. Stay positive and know that for the upcoming school year your going to do great.
Ann93
Ann93
I hope that you like the home-schooling. The one-on-one attention might help you. Everyone has a different learning style.
Keeponkeepingon85
Keeponkeepingon85
Hi, I hear your heart. I know how difficult it can be... I was held back a year too, and then my mom chose to homeschool me. It honestly was the best decision for me. I needed that one on one attention and it helped so much with my anxiety at school with the exams and quizzes. I blossomed because of homeschooling. I finished college with almost a 4.0,and I am now back in college again for another degree. It may seem hard and scary now, but believe me, you will get through it and hopefully blossom and grow in ways you never thought possible!! Hang in there.
arfie
arfie
Hello again, Cube Girl. Welcome aboard. I snuck a peek at your profile to confirm that your last post talked about having missed enough school this year that you already knew this possibility was already on the table.

May I add another spin or two to the reactions you listed here? If not, now would be a good time to stop reading.

1) The extra time in HS might give you extra study in appreciating the fullness of time. A year is not as long as it appears in an adolescent timeline.

2) The repetition will make for easier academics which will allow you to focus more on recovery from whatever caused you to miss so much school this year. Time invested in recovery always seems to strengthen the recovery process.

Just thoughts. . . Take 'em or leave 'em as fits *your* personal thoughts.

Gentle support, whichever way you take ^it^, Cube Girl. Hope you emerge stronger and more confident.
cubegirl34
cubegirl34
thanks everyone. i think i just needed to vent. i know theres nothing i can do about it now. so just have to try and hope it turns out ok. thanks.
Bluejay96
Bluejay96
Trust the teacher's professional opinions... I think they truly want you to succeed and do great. This additional year will help you get on that path. If schooling continues to be difficult, you may need to consider special support (an IEP for spec ed). There is no shame... Or judgment. IEP's help ensure additional testing time, classroom support, and other accommodations. They are used for a wide variety of kids and needs. Homeschooling is an option that I'm glad you are able to explore. If you find yourself unable to continue it, keep the IEP in mind. If absences are due to medical reasons, a 504 plan may also be written which is similar to an IEP. If peers comment to you, just tell them you are right where you need to be (and trust you truly are). May you enjoy the upcoming school year and continue to grow in knowledge. Great things are in store!
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