hello debbie. welcome to ds.

i don't know how well it relates to your case, but bizarre twists and turns on my anxiety spectrum almost qualify as normal-for-me. just when i think i have all the answers, the frigging questions change.

writing it out and sharing within my peer support network helps me sort out what the deuce my anxiety is niggling about this week. this very forum is one of the places i come to do exactly that. i hope it serves you as well as it serves me. vent freely. vent often.

for what it's worth
i'm not quite sure why, but i find myself a bit shocked at the phrase, "... no right to be afraid." fear has rights? hm-m-m-m-m. . . .

Welcome to the anxiety board at DS.

Here's to changing the way you find the view in the morning when you wake up. What feels good? What looks good?

Strange to reset the way your brain clicks to new scene.

Best wishes as you find your better balance.

There is nothing strange about what you said. It is typical for anxiety. Anxiety is a learned disorder, it come from lack of confidence and negative thinking. It’s treatable. I can’t count the mornings I didn’t want to leave the safe haven of my bed. All it really is is your mind trying to protect you from threats of perceived harm. It really is all in your mind. As I said, it’s treatable. “It’s Only Anxiety” by Carl James, consider giving it a try.

I'm struggling with this too. It's not quite fear for me though, I just don't get up. I lay there way too long, with my stupid phone. I need to leave that out of my room. But on days I work from home, I don't get out of bed until after 8, when I'm already late to log on, even though I've been awake for hours. This past Sunday I stayed past noon, just ruined the day really.
Many years ago I had same issue (different circumstances) and my wife would literally push me out of bed. May sound mean but it was good, I needed it. I'm alone now though so it's tough. My cat cries for food but that's about it.
So I don't have a great solution for you, just you're not alone. I used to leave my phone outside the room but set the alarm, forcing me to get up. Wasn't depressed at the time, but just occurred to me same stragety could still work.

Hi Debbie welcome to DS. So glad you joined. Anxiety is nothing to shake a stick at. It can come to you from all angles. Like above, it is treatable. I might be right or wrong. But it seems you could be repressing a memory or a past trauma your not willing to let yourself except. My past trauma there were many, many time where i didn't want to get out of bed. All i wanted to do is sleep. Because when you sleep the day goes by fast and i don't have to think about it. If the therapist you are seeing has not helped you, this therapist is not the one for you. Seek another. My therapy i have been through six. Until my parents found the one for me. Keep a notebook by your bedside. Try every night of what is ever on your mind and write. Rather it be a few words, a paragraph , or a full page. What you write may surprise you in time. You must never give the most inportent thing in life, is hope......... You are not hopeless.......

( Hope To Cope ) Scott

Hi ugh-wtf,

Welcome to the board! I have been living with anxiety for 25 years now and it is a daily struggle, for sure.

A simple quick solution for what you wrote would be - what do you have to do in your life that gives you a reason to get up in the morning? Do you work, or volunteer, have a partner, kids, grand kids, pets to feed, errands to do, etc. Having a "reason" to get up and going in the morning each day, is a good place to start.

How long have you had anxiety? Do you know when this started? Did something recent happen that has made you feel this way or has it been this way a long time?

If you can trace it back to a specific event or time in your life, then therapy can be very helpful in working with any traumatic events. As @2magicman said above, you may need to look for a new therapist, too. A therapist that gets you excited, happy, hopeful, optimistic... about the future. Someone who makes you feel like you can't wait to get up in the morning so that you can get going with your exciting, fulfilling day! :)

And lastly, if not wanting to get out of bed has been going on for awhile, say a month or longer, then you may have depression, as well as anxiety.

Are you on any anxiety medication? I think seeing a psychiatrist might be a good place to start. They could see if you need any medication, and they can refer you to a new therapist/psychologist.

You are not alone.

Hi Ugh,

I can totally relate as I am feeling the same way lately. It isn’t that I don’t have things to do or anything to be afraid of, I simply feel blah in the mornings and don’t want to face it. I feel better as the day goes on. I think after a bit that it becomes a habit thinking “oh, no, it’s morning and I am going to feel bad.”

I think depression has something to do with it as lots of people with depression tend to spend more time in bed as a coping mechanism. I don’t sleep well lately and that is part of the problem. I keep thinking if I just stay in bed longer I will be able to catch up on my sleep.

Are you sleeping well at night?

Good luck and welcome to DS.

hello i am new my self i have the same issue i am currently homeless i am living (staying) with some one that i know but he is a pain he knows i dont sleep good and continues to wake me up every morning just though i send u a note saying hang in there and things will get better

I think anxiety hits in the morning the worst-because you are conscious and have nothing to distract you-so any irrational fears you might be pondering will attack--
and anxiety does not depend on reality or truth--so it doesn't matter to anxiety that you are actually safe--your anxiety does not care about that. but you an tell it to stand down--I say to myself "no tigers in here...safe and sound" for m that means I am safe in the moment. and I breathe deeply for a few minutes to get rid of any lurking tensions...

That seems normal for anxiety. Don't go looking for reasons. Having anxiety means there are no real reasons.

I find that it's helpful that my dogs need to be let out. I respond to their little barks, and I don't want to mistreat them by making them have to hold it too long. Once I am up, the anxiety usually seems to dissipate.

See whether there is something else you can use as a reason outside yourself to make it necessary to get up. A pet is nice if you can have one. Or maybe a friend can text you every morning. This helps me also.