Hi and welcome. I'll try to help. Can you provide more specific information? In what way haven't you felt the same? What are the arguments between you and your husband about? What sorts of things do you perceive are your fault?

Koolman asked some questions that will help you sort through your feelings, emotions, and give you some possible patterns. I'm going to ask you if you've seen a doctor to make sure you're not experiencing postpartum symptoms. It happens far more than people realize, and is treatable. Your body and brain have changed chemical levels and sometimes, they are out of balance, so getting them back in balance can provide needed relief to "normal range". Please know you are not alone.

Sounds like a good time to see if your husband is willing to go with you to marital counseling. It is a critical time to work together to encourage each other and build a stronger marriage instead of fighting. Having a baby adds more stress to the relationship and if the foundation is not right, it can be terrible. If you want to talk about it here, what is he blaming you for? Both people in a marriage can always do better. Does he ever accept responsibility for any mistakes and say he's sorry?

Its my first day here too. Lets hope things work out for all of us

I have been going to my doctor regularly. I seen her about a week ago and mentioned i am depressed all the time. She did a postpartum test on me and said i passed. Koolman, thank you. I will answer the questions the best way i can. I feel a lot more stressed out. My husband is a State trooper and i worry about him a lot. I hardly have help with our daughter due to him working all the time. I am a nurse and i feel that i am not able to go back to work because daycare is so expensive. We have little arguments that turn into something big where he yells at me. I will tell him something that i am feeling and he yells at me, I feel i am not able to tell him how i feel so i keep it all bottled up.

Snowprincess : Keeping it bottled up is not a good option. It leads to more depression and more anxiety.

I know its not good and i feel like i have no one to talk to. I have told him many times he needs to work on yelling at me and he needs to let me talk to him.

What about the 8 month baby? That can't be good for the baby. Hope you all get some counseling soon!

I used to have that problem with being yelled at. It took a while of standing my ground before he finally got the message. Here is what I used to tell him: If you can't speak to me with love and kindness, then just don't speak to me at all. Take 5 or whatever but do NOT yell at me. Hugs!!