Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I wrote another post about ditching friends and how I wanted to ditch a guy friend. I've been avoiding him but today he asked if there was a problem so I had to be honest and let him know that he was driving me crazy. He totally thinks differently than anyone I know. So I told him some things that were bothering me, as nicely as I could. He wrote back that he will be sure to never bother me again and promptly blocked me on Facebook. I am mostly relieved but I don't like hurting people's feelings. I was very tired of his oppositional personality. He prefers rain over sunshine. He would get excited when rain was coming and he was annoying about it. He bragged. He monopolized conversations. He is a dreamer. I hate dreamers. Get real. He's always refusing things. When we got the stimulus checks, he said that he didn't want it. But I think that he has gotten worse. He didn't put in for Social Security or his pensions because he said that his girlfriend would want the money. He was excited that they were getting a car given to them and then he complained about driving. He just doesn't think like a normal person. I wanted to bail out quietly. It was a build-up of a lot of unrealistic stuff.
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
I know the type, the manipulators
I talk about here are the same way.
Their daughter friended me on facebook 15yrs ago, and kept posting pics of her brother, kept on giving me flashbacks (who I think was playing "mind games" games with me anyway) I un-friended.
Whole family has PTSD............Long story, anyway,
This life IS stressful enough, without these negative assholes trying to "worm" their way into your life and use You for their pupusas.
You did the right thing.......Let Yourself off the hook
My husband was complaining about someone in my extended family. He wasn’t wrong with his observations. This person can be a piece of work and his observations are mine as well. But he goes on about it, like taking it personal almost, getting agitated and I finally said why do you care so much what they do or don’t do? Why does it affect you so much? He couldn’t give an answer, just that they do this and this. I again said yeah but what does it matter to your life? Crickets. He can’t understand why I don’t care more. I said because people are who they are and can be or do or live how they want. So what. Like short of killing someone or performing illegal acts, who cares. He looked at me like I had three heads. We are just different that way, haha!
Life’s too short to let people get under skin for just kind being who they are. Don’t have to be friends but sometimes there is something to be said about accepting people as they are, where they are. Doesn’t mean you have to get sucked in. Just means you don’t have let them annoy the hell out of you so much.
And I don’t think accepting people for who they are means you need to be friends with them. Not at all. For me when I just accept people as they are, I feel less affected by them, less reactive, whether I decide to end the things or just decide to engage them in really small doses.
Speaking of people being real, I wish these people were with me. They were never upfront with me, never could tell me what they wanted as I got older , they just kept me in the dark.
I don't think people will ever be real with You, those are toxic people.
Friend's will be re.al and honest with You.