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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Meesh1987
Meesh1987

Hello everyone my name is Michelle I have not been on here in a long time but I just need some support because I don't know what to do anymore. I am a 31 year old that has anxiety I also have a learning disabilty which makes it difficult to be accepted and make friends. This is where it gets hard for me to where I am starting to suffer depression because my anxiety is getting high now. The friends that I have also have a learning disabilty and they live 30 minutes away from me. I have a guy friend coming from out of town this weekwho used to live here who calls me daily muliple times a day. Up until a month ago I was seeing him here everyday he is staying at our firends house. Keep in mind my friend that lives here I have always offered to help her out whenever she needs she doesn't drive so I help cause I just feel like a good person. She talked to him a month ago saying I was obessed with him which I wasn't he clearly calls me everyday. She complains to be about other people, I have been unvited to see him and the events they are doing while he is here then they invite me back and they uninvite me. She has even ended the friendship but we worked it out I thought but then days later texted me saying she is forced to be my friend. I realize I just not have someone like that in my life there is another friend when I go to visit who says the same thing she says I need to stop going down there after I put in hard work to help her out. My friends have never stood up for me. The reason I put up with it is because I don't have any other friends I have tried to go to meetings around me area where once again I wasnt accepted. My guy friend who is coming into town asked me out last December begging me to move to his state but then he didnt want to wait. I am so embarrest with my life I feel like I have no friends I am being forced to live somewhere that is not right for me I am not happy at all I have tried everything. I have never been asked out on a date and im 31 who has not had a boyfriend before and now I am losing friends. What have I done to deserve all this hurt. I realize this is very long I already put in a call to my therapist I am waiting for her to get back from vacation but I just could not wait.I have never felt so alone. 

Hickory
Hickory
When people act this inconsistent, I would assume its their problems and not really about you.
Think about valuing yourself more and realizing that is their loss if they don't want t you as their friend. This frees you up from having to take on their problems as well. Makes more time for you to gain friends who value you more.m.
Hickory
Hickory
When people act this inconsistent, I would assume its their problems and not really about you.
Think about valuing yourself more and realizing that is their loss if they don't want t you as their friend. This frees you up from having to take on their problems as well. Makes more time for you to gain friends who value you more.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
You sound like a very nice person and that you would make a good friend. Maybe not with these rude people, but definitely to someone new. Keep going out, put yourself out there, join meetups maybe, or other activity groups (check online). There are plenty of people out there who would love to have a nice friend like you! Just have to go find them... they won't come knocking on your door (unfortunately, lol). Keep trying and soon you will have lots of friends and lots of dates.
Meesh1987
Meesh1987
Thank you everyone for all the comments and advice it really means a lot. After finally taking the time to come on here again and post how I feel I noticed I started to feel better knowing I let my feelings out in a safe place. I am going to start to get involved with different activities around my area that will be the right fit for me and that will work around my schedule at work.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Do more for your well-being. Change your response to fit your well-being first.
When you remind yourself to do for you first, it will help you to remember that you are responsible for you.
When other people respond in way that is not positive, it is their choice and their responsibility, not yours.
Just because someone else does or says something does NOT make it your problem.
This is another tool to help reset your anxiety level to a better balance for your well-being.
Writing it out is the important first step and finding different activities that work for you will help as well.
Best wishes!
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