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doncornelius
doncornelius

im sitting here trying to think about the last time I really felt normal. Like the last time I didn’t let fear take over my reasoning. I don’t know if it happened overnight or a little at a time. Now the fear is constantly there. It comes as anxiety and depression. I honestly believe that’s where things went wrong with me. I didn’t want to upset the Apple cart as they say. Instead of just making that one decision that one time, I let fear intervene. Now I have to deal with the repercussions and that’s where the stress and stuff comes from. I knew what I had to do and I didn’t. Now sometimes i feel like the anxiety and depression is punishment for not taking action when I had the chance. It’s a viscous cycle you know. I post this in hopes that it could help someone out. Sometimes you have to get a little uncomfortable for things to be comfortable. I had someone equate it to taking off a band-aid. You try to peel it off slowly and it hurts the whole time. If you just ripped it off it would only hurt that second. 

arfie
arfie
Sounds like you have a pretty solid awareness of what is going on, Don. Is the awareness helping you formulate a plan for dealing with ^it^?

A recurring theme in my personal psycho weirds is where yesterday's solution becomes tomorrow's problem. E.g. stuffing my emotions for the sake of not upsetting the proverbial apple cart often gets me through the immediate situation, but comes back later as anxiety, resentment, etc. I am currently attempting to treat my own version of the phenom like a balancing act. If I have to suppress an emotion for the sake of expedience, I balance the suppression by finding a way to express the suppressed emotion later on. The treatment seems to be helping, but it is a works in progress.
doncornelius
doncornelius
I think that the awareness is a calming influence, but I also know I’m walking a fine line. I can fall off at anytime. I do though feel better prepared for that day. It’s hard to say. I look at it like this right. You see a big dog rushing you right so you say to yourself ok it’s gonna charge me and jump on me. I’m going to duck and dodge. When that dog is on top of me I’m not thinking about anything I’m just going with the flow. If that makes any sense. Sure I push an emotion or two aside at times, they do seem to creep back up now and then. Your %100 right about treatment being a process.
baileyf14
baileyf14
Anxiety and depression are very difficult things to deal with. I deal with anxiety myself. I have dealt with it for about 3 years now. It is one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with. Just know that it does get better and everything will work out. I hope all goes weel with you!
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Hey Don, like your dog attack analogy. I'm on several sites here as stuff likes company. Anxiety and depression seem to be kissing cousins, and they feed on each other. You come across as solution oriented, so you will fill your toolbox with the things that will help turn this around. Great thing about DS is that folks not only give and get support, but replies have many shares on the tools folks have found that work for them. We are here. Healing hugs.
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