Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
So me and this guy have been together about 5 months and everything has been going good. We've had one "fight" but other than that we get along great, he says he loves me and we have a blast when we are together. We were messaging tonight and I was getting tired so I said "cant wait to see you tomorrow I love you night" and he said it back. Then 2 hours later, whilevim asleep i get a message saying he wants to break up and we dont have things in common and all this and that. He changed his facebook to single. So I go to his house and wake him up. I know that seems crazy but I was so distraught and confused. After a lil bit of yelling and a few "get out of my house" we calmed down and started to talk and He said it just seems like all we ever do is watch what show I want or listen to what music I want, and we dont have the same likes anymore. I told him I could give 2 shits what we watch and we could watch porn for all I care and that he just has to talk to me about these kinds of things. He kept apologizing and I asked him is there any part of me that wants to work this out and he said yes and grabs my face and kisses me. We embrace in a hug and he says he was sorry over and over and that this is his first relationship in a long time and he didnt know how to handle it and he said I said I love you when you went to bed cuz I meant it. I asked him numerous times if we were ok and he kept saying yes. His dog started to act up so I left and he said he would see me later. I got home and obviously threw up from all the anxiety. I'm still worked up and numerous thoughts are going through my head like "am I going to get another text while I'm at work" "does he really love me" I just am so confused, I mean I left his house and he said all those things and I feel like he meant it, my depression is just trying to tell me something different. Or is it? I dont know, I need some help.
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
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...and another day closer to Fall! Tra la la la la...Next month there is a Sasquatch Festival in my city! We're excited to go and get our picture taken with Bigfoot. Really!Have a great day, everyone -
Giving myself recovery time after a tit-for-tat skirmish has helped me considerable. Helping myself has inspired hubby to follow my example and give himself recovery time, as well. Tit-for-tat is a brutal game and we **both** come away from every skirmish hurt and damaged. Taking space from each other and focusing on self-healing calms us both.
If conjugal love was easy, our world-wide divorce rate wouldn't be what it is. Gentle support while you find what works for you and yours.
You are NOT responsible for the other person's actions.
This is important as you learn to help your own well-being by making your responses and actions work for you first.
When you change your response and your reaction, keeping calm and relaxed, it brings about change from others as their usual response and action no longer "fit".
It does NOT mean it will improve at first, often it leads to worse behavior, but it does change and as long as you keep your self in calm and relaxed, it will eventually work in a positive way.
Do Not Let Text determine your reaction. It just relays words, not feelings, not emotions, not perspective. The same words can mean something different from someone else's perspective.
Just because it is said or written does NOT make it your problem.
In relationships, you have to remember you are you first.
Check out healthy relationships on DS. It will help.
Best wishes.
Trust that if the two of you are meant to be, you will be. If not, then there will be something better for you.
Communication can be so hard. I'm glad you guys were able to talk things through. Share your fears with him.
You want love that is strong. If this is not, wait for one that is.
I wish you all the best!
I understand the pain of being ghosted and the need to know the facts, however, too bad he didn't go to your house to you to explain his comment and actions on FB since he didn't seem to find it necessary to do this until you went over to his place.
I hope you don't keep getting sick over his actions (or lack of actions if there are any).