Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Hello, I have actually been pretty good lately with anxiety (specifically social), but with it being my senior year in high school and all of my college applications being (nearly) done, I am feeling VERY worried. For reasons I will not bore any of you with, the colleges I am applying to are almost all reach schools, and so realistically, I could get into none of them. At that point, I do have a back-up school I still really like, but of course it will still be disappointing.
I have thought about this worry a lot, and I have realized something. I am less worried about going to my safety school, and more worried about people knowing that I was only accepted into my safety school. This back-up school is PSU, and it actually has an amazing anthropology department and marching band, I when I think about that alone, I know I will succeed and have fun there. But... I am scared that my family and people at school will see me as stupid for applying to the other schools, and I fear being humiliated, both for being denied by the other colleges and for thinking that I had a chance in the first place.
I am wondering if anybody has any tips or advice on dealing with this type of stress, or specifically dealing with being denied by schools? I know that I still have a chance, but I just think that if I prepare to be disappointed, it will be less of a shock when I get that letter. Thanks :)
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I can also say that as someone who also applied to one safety school and the a couple of reach schools that I ended up not getting into, I'm beyond happy with how it all turned out for me. The school I went to also has a great anthropology dept, which is what I got my degree in. My career has absolutely nothing to do with anthropology, so it really didn't matter where I got my degree from anyway. Plus, I still live one town over from where I went to college because I love the area so much.
Basically, what I'm saying, is that things will work out no matter what happens. It's okay to be disappointed, and it's okay to be sad, frustrated or whatever else if you don't get into a school you want to get into, but it's going to be okay and no one will think any less of you.
Best of luck!
For example, I married a woman with children, my parents objected loudly, but they had to deal with it, and I have now been happily married for more than 20 years, and no one checks up on my parents more than my dear wife. So if you didn't get your first choice, you could confide in your parents for support, but don't worry. PSU is a great school with a great alumni network, something whose importance you may appreciate in later years. But if it were not good enough, then you could work hard and if your grades were good, transfer if that's what you wished.
Personally I went to one of the top 10 schools in the nation for a post-graduate degree, but in the end it did not matter that much, the panache of a school with a premier reputation helped in a few situations but overall my success depended upon my skills.
What matters is choosing the best fit for your well-being.
I went to a local college, turning down a scholarship to a "name" brand place. I am much more comfortable knowing that I made the choice.
As mentioned above, you can have a great experience no matter where you go and making the school that you can get into your first choice, and the others, possible options, you're going to be better balanced.
That anxiety of getting into ''..." may end up continuing through the experience, so take a step back and give yourself a pat on the back for writing it out.
You're 'doing' the process, hurrah!
He’s in sophomore now and I’m happy for the school he chose. It’s one hour drive from our house and he enjoys his classes.
I hope things will go well for you. Please keep us posted and let us know how you are doing. I pray for God’s wisdom to be upon you and you will be guided in your decisions. God bless.