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can't stop obsessive thoughts

sunsets1386
sunsets1386
I can never truly leave. I know my boyfriend is not the one, he's verbally and physically abusive almost every time we see eachother. I keep holding on to my memory of him when we first met four years ago. So charming, now he charms his friends and bartenders, and is a monster to me... But still I stay, why... Bc its easier than finding someone new, maybe I believe I can't find anyone better like he says. I feel like this can't be it for me.. But see no other options. Struggling with extreme depression, anxiety, and relapse issues, alone... Wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy... I have a really important job interview tomorrow and can't sleep bc I'm thinking about who he is with instead of me. He always tells me he is busy doing like chores, or work and instead he's actually drinking at a bar. This can't be it.. It just can't. I feel panic when I think about my time wasted, and energy, love, etc. I just want it all figured out
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I know how hard it is to get out of the "why am I not enough for them" mode, but you really need to try to do this. This guy sounds awful and he's controlling you and making you feel bad about yourself. You need to get away as fast as you can. I know it's very hard, but don't dwell on what used to be. You have to think about what is now and how unhappy you are. Find a friend to talk to or a therapist or a group. This guy is bad news and you probably need some support to get the strength to get away from him. But don't say you can't. You definitely can, and even if it takes a couple of tries, keep trying. Nobody should have to put up with what he's doing to you. Don't let him control you and keep making you miserable. Believe in yourself!
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Best wishes with your job interview, and think positive!

When it comes to relationships, the pattern of thinking can be adjusted with an addition of "what I can do for me" to help get past the log jam of other issues. As you find your strength, keep reminding yourself that you are just as important to you, and work towards that.

Hope you are doing better today!
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