Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Tell me if you think this is wrong... I've been in a downward spiral with my boyfriend for the last... almost 3 months now. We've been breaking up and making up, over and over. This last week, he said he wanted to work things out for good and I believed him. I let him come back home. I told him I wasn't interested in sex, because my head and my heart weren't there. I didn't feel like opening that part of myself back up if this was just going to go back to the way things were. Wednesday night, he "accidentally" slipped his fingers into my shorts, and i jumped and asked him to stop. He said it was an accident.
Thursday morning, I hadn't even woken up and he grabbed my hand, moaned, said "feel how much I've missed you," and put my hand on his crotch. Again, I jumped and I got really upset this time. He said he was sorry, but then he said "if you were more willing, maybe I wouldn't feel the need to force you."
I kicked him out. I've never felt so violated, so disgusted... He says I'm bipolar (I'm not), and that I need to grow up. I told him consent is consent, and no means no. He said I'm playing the victim again. He has gaslighted me before, making me feel so crazy to the point where I started going to therapy. But now I'm confused... Was this wrong, or am I really just crazy?
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My day...today...misplaced my debit card...didn't realize it until I got to the register after shopping to a full cart. Used a different debit card and pulled apart everything looking for missing debit card before I left parking lot. Got home, dropped keys. So now I have a missing debit card, missing keys. A full cartload to unload and put away. I got everything put away.Dumped purse for a...
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I don't really know how to label this but I having a rough week and I can't say it's one thing.... I have a lot on my plate which is nothing new and I try to cope in many positive ways and do but I still have my moments.My kids more so my daughters talk to me about everything which I know it's cause of comfort and we are close.... however I really struggle with the venting about their dad which...
You kicked him out for physical behavior that broke the arrangement you set up to let him back in. That is a statement that has no opinion (and it's important to remember that).
Remain above the finger-pointing and move forward knowing you have to decide your self for long-term what you want.
You can not change what he says or does, however, you can change how you respond which then changes the situation for your well-being. You've written it out and all of it is together so I'm trying to be careful in my response. Someone's opinion of me is not my problem. It's theirs. I know what I feel, and that's how I decide what works for me.
However, you've asked the question: "Was this wrong, or am I really just crazy?" which puts two issues into a single sentence.
Yes, what happened was wrong in all ways, shapes, forms, and it defines the situation specifically.
No, you are not really just crazy. You defined what was appropriate in the arrangement and the usual refrain no longer fits.
When the usual refrain no longer fits, then you have a decision to make that changes the reaction you will have to whatever the refrain is.
It is important to remember that the beginning of this is what you are working with, to help you move forward.
I hope this helps. Best wishes!