Well, at my work at lot of people don't say hi to each other. Most of us do so with select people just as some people have nothing better to do than cause drama for others. Now, those people don't say hi to me so in return I don't say hi to them. However, anytime a person says hi to me, I will say hi back out of common courtesy and basic respect. I wouldn't take that personal as being at a job for just a few weeks may mean your co-workers are possibly not welcome to newer employees. Now I can go to work to get my job done and to leave anything to do with work at the door when I walk out. In my opinion, the less social interaction I have at work the better. I don't consider many of my co-workers as friends. I've had these friendships before and then whenever I'd go and hangout with these people. I'd often feel left out of everything. My last draw with a co-worker was a party she had at her house. I did know we were going to grill out and drink. However, my co-worker promised me that she was going to take her six-year old daughter to her father's apartment. What ended up happening was not only was there drinking but several people brought marijuana to the party. I'll admit I limited my drinking cause somebody had to and I knew nobody else would. It is a good thing I did because I had to get a band-aid for this co-workers daughter who injured herself as she fell off her bike. Thats cause my co-worker was so drunk and stoned that she was incapable of caring for her daughter. I'll admit I joined these people and smoked pot with them. But what realy got to me was the fact that this little girl was treated like shit by her mom or my co-worker and I had to sit there and watch that. It was unjustified first of all. Despite being stoned myself I knew what was going on and gladly passed out after finishing smoking a blunt with the group. I vowed after that that I would never attend a private party again. So far, I have held to this new obligation that I have willed upon myself. What I am saying is that we as adults are obligated to keep children that young away from us especially if us adults intend to engage in the use of illegal drugs at a party. My co-worker tried to convince me that her daughter didn't know we were using marijuana. Maybe she didn't know what exactly we were doing. I know she did know what we all were doing was very wrong. That at the very least I feel she did know. Sorry for venting, but I have a huge problem when A INNOCENT CHILD IS VICTIMIZED! I am just emphasizing the point and I am not yelling here. But, I ended me and this co-workers friendship immediately. Her lying and behavior were that inconceivable to me. I do feel guilt for it myself, cause some people would say I am just as guilty as the rest of them. I'd have to agree. But I know I am the only one out of over twenty of us who made and kept a vow that this would be my last time going to a private party.

I honestly think you shouldn't take it so personally. In hindsight, it looks like a small problem...the anxiety you get is very real though from it & it makes you believe that the issue is bigger than it really is.

Look, I'd say chances of her doing that are very slim. BUT since I don't wanna be insensitive to your feelings since I know saying that won't make them go away because first you have to convince yourself that it really isn't a big deal. Here's a tip just think of the worst possible outcome you're afraid of, like say she does talk bad about you in theory. What's honestly the worse thing that could happen to you if she did that? Think about it. Your fear is the only thing that's breaking you down right about now.

Once you overlook this & your thoughts surpass this fear of something that most likely probably isn't going on, then you'll feel a lot better. But worst case scenario it does happen, it'd make you feel horrible but....then what? That feeling goes away. Therefore there's nothing to be afraid of.

Remember to keep work professional. Every time you find yourself making it personal, take a step back and focus on your job, things you do in the workplace.

Being courteous starts from within, and being professional and courteous is far easier to maintain than worrying about "what ifs", so give yourself the pep talk as many times as you need to help you move on from this personal view.

You can not change how everyone else views the situation, you can change how you view it, and how you respond, which will change what could happen.

Best wishes.

To say, because of one unfortunent incident, that you will never go to another co-workers party again seems extreme and produces needless anxiety. The child is her Mom's business. And you
passed out yourself which was of no help to the child. You must be couteous to expect it in return. Make a point of saying Hello to your co-workers and your boss....try to be up on things, make a few jokes and above all, give yourself time. It's always awkward being the new kid on the block but you have to meet people at least half-way. Join in, be a team member and know that you're lucky to have a job. It doesn't help YOU at all to carry a chip on your shoulder for something that will probably never happen again. Ask someone out for lunch or coffee....you will see how changing your attitude will change how people see you and how much more relaxed you will be. It's to YOUR benefit. Wishing you luck and love.

I agree, don't take it personally. It doesn't matter what others might say or think about others. What matters is ..... What you think about yourself. As for what others think..... I like what Joyce Beyhar says..."So what, who cares!" (It sounds better with the Jersey Accent!) Just do your job to the best of your abilities and leave it outside the front door when you come home. Believe in yourself and your abilities!