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Break in a Relationship

matt9030
matt9030

Hello,



Recently I have been struggling mentally with overthinking and getting stressed out. I used to go to my partner to help me with it but then I started to realize she was the way I was feeling these emotions. She didn't seem to want to put that effort in like I did and she kept being friends with this guy who was making sexual remarks to her and I asked her if she could stop but she kept saying no. After we had that argument I decided I wanted a break from her for a while because I can't keep going on right now if she doesn't understand how I'm feeling about anything. I understand why she keeps him around but it hurts me and to that I don't think she understands. I've felt somewhat more relieved and relaxed since we started the break but now I just miss talking to her especially since we planned to see each other this weekend originally. Some part of me hopes she will reach out to me over this break but I know she won't and I don't plan on reach out to her. I love my partner like crazy but I don't feel like she understands me and see my concerns about certain situations and I feel as if I'm always the one apologizing. I'm hoping this gets better as time goes but for now I just miss her. 

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Start writing in a daily journal.

Write out everything.

This way you'll see how your thinking, emotions, and feelings are and finding your better balance will be easier.
catch_the_music
catch_the_music
It sounds like she has moved on and you should think about that also - even though you may still miss her at times. Use that time to work on yourself and become the best you can be. Have you ever been part of a singles group? Some churches have really good singles programs where the pastor or leader teaches people about relationships. I took part in a couple of groups like that - it was beneficial. Another resource you might want to check out is a website called boundless.org. Lots of good material there on singles and dating. Good luck my friend! I hope things turn out well!
Ash122
Ash122
Did you put any rules or clear guidelines pertaining to the break itself? Knowing these boundaries fully can help you cope with the break and/or breakup, if it leads to that. I know how it feels to want to run to your partner and confide in them and not be able to. I just recently went through a breakup so I understand. It sucks, but it doesn't have to. Hopefully you've got a support system of friends and/or family you can talk to as well. And you also have this board.

And as Mid said, write it out.
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