Hi!

I understand how you feel and you have my prayers and my well-wishes.

Do you like to read good novels? Margaret Atwood's "The Edible Women" is what I suggest for help with what you're dealing with. Just a short excerpt of the book:

The Edible Woman is a 1969 novel that helped to establish Margaret Atwood as a prose writer of major significance. It is the story of a young woman whose sane, structured, consumer-oriented world starts to slip out of focus. Following her engagement, Marian feels her body and her self are becoming separated.

Its not easy doing everything I know how you feel.as my friends would tell you , you need time for your self to hide away from everyone for a couple of hours as my friend above says about reading maybe play so music to relax your mind with a cuppa but do it for your self maybe the same time every day.
Just put your feet up but just look after your self ..hugs

For my psycho nickel, anxiety and depression are two knots on the same threads. They are not the same, but they surely run in the same circles. I kinda like cross-posting certain of my threads for the sake of diversity. Might not hurt to cross-post.

Anyhoo. . .

I started my second parenting career when my youngest son and his wife died in a traffic accident, leaving behind 3 children, ages 6 and under. Some days I feel like I've experienced the immaculate conception of triplets at the age of 65. I am taking on this challenge with the same hubby and still having allot of the feelings you are describing here, especially on the days we are arguing about which one of us is more exhausted and which one gave up the most for the privilege of being over-worked, under-paid and under-appreciated. I s'pose the good news is that it is not quite so much of a shock to our expectations. I sure am grateful I'm not having to synchronize with a new partner through this challenge. My partner still ain't perfect, but at least I know where and what most of his warts are.

Sigh. . .

Gentle empathy, ABC. Parenting is tough business. Partnering can be even tougher. Vent freely. Vent often. Sometimes it helps.

Hugs...i definitely can relate to this. And now my husband is no longer in love with me. Make sure YOU take time for yourself. Feed your soul. Take care of yourself.

One - definitely cross post this as more people will be able to help with the support.

Two-yes, depression and anxiety ride together in my roller coaster. So, normal.

Three-any parenting is challenging. Take time to relax, run away, and refresh your spirit. We spend so much time and effort taking care of everyone else first, and ourselves last, and we need to take care of us first.

You're not alone!

I think you need to have a discussion with your husband and family. You have to keep going at it until you get it. They have to take you seriously.

I think you have a right to take a vacation and should take control over something you think is important.

That said, as a man, I can sympathize with many men. Some women will do a lot of things in the house and from our perspective they may not be necessary or we can do without them. But no need to debate this.

In a nice way, tell him you need a break, figure out how this can be done, and make arrangements to do it, and stick to your guns.