For me, your words share a hurt that is far below the surface of calm and peace.

I had to fight a parking citation from a city location I had not been to in forty years. It was finally dismissed, but I had to do a lot of research. I feel for you with the parking ticket because sometimes, they get it wrong.

With your Aunt, there are so many directions those words send my thoughts to. I truly hope someone steps up to help you through this difficult challenge.

Cleaning house is different from clearing clutter and it takes time to do a little bit and overwhelming if the whole is looked at, without separating the little bits that can make a difference.

I hope the washer repair is easy.

The rain cleans and clears.

When something happens in a relationship that shows true character, it often leads to feelings changing.

Here's hoping you find your calm, peace, and gentle to be positive in challenging social situations as you sort through your feelings.

Therapy comes in many different forms. We support you here! You got this!

Mid, what beautiful words! Thank you so much! As to my ticket, I parked in front of a driveway that I didn't think was used. I was wrong. As to my washer, my handyman was honest and told me that it would cost a fortune to fix. As to my Aunt, all I can say is that her daughter is busy taking care of her mental health by avoiding her mother. She rarely calls or visits. If it wasn't for me, my Aunt would hardly eat and have little joy in her life. As to my friend, I always knew that the friendship was mostly about her. I have written to her about my day, asking how her day is going. I usually get a response to the part about her and she will respond "meal prep and watching sports". But when she wants to talk, we're talking long texts that are hard to understand and that I have to decipher. Her texting is horrible! She's in love with a big sports figure that she thinks she missed a chance with. After 15 years of stories and not wanting to hurt her feelings, I finally told her to move on. She doesn't want to hear anything about the other fish in the sea. Her response is very negative. I really do not want to go back into therapy. It's actually no cost to me. Today is the 30 year anniversary of a breakup with my last boyfriend. Who knew that I would be alone for 30 years? Who knew I would come to appreciate it?

Yes, here's to you! Way to go!

Thanks Mid!

Sometimes something is going on within us deep in our souls and minds and it rises as anger towards innocent other people.

Your friend, well this is not a good friend and maybe you know deep down that this person was self-absorbed. Until you got strong and said goodbye. Sometimes we have to do this in our lives.

We ruminate because it is a loss and our minds remember and our brains think. I think anger is part of grieving.

I am in a transition period in my own life. Sounds like you are in one also. This can be confusing, scary, we doubt ourselves, we feel fear of the unknown, etc.

I think you do not like the anger and dumping on other people. I can tell you have a kindness and love within yourself. You are very giving to your poor aunt.

Do you practice any gratitude? Daily listing three things you are grateful for instead of always ruminating on the bad in your life. Do this pen to paper and in a month I bet your mindset will be more on grateful and have reduced anger.

Hi hasty! I definitely practice gratitude! I am happy every morning when I have my first cup of coffee, relax on the loveseat with my cat, write in my diary while listening to awesome music! Thanks for your thoughts! I appreciate them!

Therapy would probably be worth a try. I do weekly therapy for my anxiety disorder. I find it helps a lot for me to have someone to talk to that I can tell anything and everything to. It also helps me to know that I have that weekly appointment coming up, and that I will be able to tell her these things at my next appointment. It's like talking to a girl friend.

I am on my 6th therapist. The first 4? I could tell after 1 or 2 sessions that I didn't like them. It can take awhile to find one that you "click" with. But they are out there! I can message you about where to look for one online, I know a good website (where I found my therapists).

I think most all of us ruminate when we are upset, stressed, grieving.... It's just if it's disrupting daily life too much and for too long, that maybe talking to a therapist for awhile might help.

Good luck with this. It's not easy!

Hi Girl! My therapist texts me once in a while so I could just let her know that I need an appointment. I am actually better than I was a few weeks ago. I have been in and out of therapy since I was 19. I was hospitalized twice in the 90s. I'm glad that therapy is helping you so much. Thanks!