try taking the high road...maybe say to yourself "i'll stay in my own lane...(and to the other) 'go with god"" - I hope that makes sense? If I understand correctly?
Sometimes people just are irritable and the chemistry in relationships is not always good. It may be just for the day or it's as things are with them.
I had coworker in Malibu who could not be please (she was a cashier, when I was a courtesy clerk) Even if I tried she still was heartless - so I just pitied her
and thought what a gross person. It's just how it goes sometimes in the relationships we had. She was lovely to some folks.
I never tried to tit for tat with her - I did my utmost to please her - and then
when that never happened I kind of did a thought process of 'doing a good job is it's own reward" (since I was not getting a reward from her.
That taught me to stay in my own lane and just become a better professional.

it translates well into the words i might choose for ^it^, my budding bud. thank you. "reframing" is a therapy tool which works quite well for me. reframing is my most charismatic draw to my language studies. i certainly don't study languages for the joy of arguing with fools in 4 languages. the words are different, but the foolishness looks equally foolish.

I agree with you Arfie two people getting at it, is foolish.
I can't say I haven't been a fool, but i try to keep silent about opinions in with certain people. And when their cruel, I just act polite or keep in my lane as said previously.

Sometimes we just need a little break from someone. A time out . Some quiet If that’s a possibility. Everyone gets on each others nerves now and then even the ones we love so much

thank you, bluebird. i still prove the proverb on a distressingly routine basis, but works are in progress. being gentle with myself and patient with the process.

amen, light. sound and solid advice. works in progress. . .

I have two friends who listen to the mainstream fear based news and refuse to think beyond these lies. I have told both to not talk politics with me. One wanted me to refute what she had heard but could not force herself to deal with facts which I gave her. Made me crazy. I realized she liked the drama of this one bad, that one terrible, oh, freak out about this and that, hate this one hate that one. So I vowed -- try to first hear the drama loving in what the other person is saying and don't feed their drama. If they are doing the drama loving, we can't refute them or have a logical discussion because this is an emotional thing.

My two friends got nothing else going on in their lives but the hate the other side and do drama loving stuff. I also started calling their political stuff "hate speech" or "hate filled" which got their attention. These are two older women doing far left wing politics! But I also know some people on the far right who do this fear based stuff and these are both young and old.

I consider some of this stuff as me having to learn new communication skills. I also realized it stresses me out to hear the illogical or fear or hate based stuff so I set strong boundaries on people I do really like otherwise.

I heard a psychologist say this fear based political stuff we have going on, both sides, is based on a need to control their own world. To feel in command, in control, or to feel a part of something, some group.

One of my favorite sayings is we can't force someone who is irrational or illogical to be rational or logical. I certainly tried to do this for many years until I realized my own codependence and need to be right. I have cut my reacting like this down quite a bit which doesn't mean I am perfect.

A good friend taught me to say this: "that is one way to think about it" and not said in anger, said calmly. I also sometimes say, "hmmm... I'll have to think about that" -- learned that one with having young kids. These are for when you are forced to respond verbally. The first one gives respect and the second one gives attention or sort of validates them inside their own mind.

I have lately said "now that is interesting" and people feel validated. They don't know what I am really thinking and what I find interesting is how strange their thinking is.

are you good friends with my hubby? the man is a fact machine who spouts those facts like the ivy league poet i married. when i need to know a fact on a current event, i don't need to consult my internet search engines. i can rely on my beloved to have the research in his massive cranium. when i need to detox my broken brain? ? ?

just keep on talking, baby
i like the sound
it goes so good with the rain falling down
it's not that i'm not interested, you see
it's just that your newsfeed is no place to be ~rodney crowel

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9IDxJwU2ZQY

he doesn't need to duplicate my priorities for me to love him.

fight with a fool get you no place. when someone is fight with me. i try to walk away and let them talk to they shelf. let them look dumb. you can never win fight with a fool. it better to say nothing.

most excellent strategy, laurie.

there has been a time or three when i have walked away from the argument, the fool has been able to hear their own words.

Arfie, I just gotta say I love Rodney Crowel’s music so much.

I was lucky to have met him once, briefly, after a small show he did. I was completely star struck. One of the great song writers

no cabe duda, rmb
(there fits no doubt)