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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Anxious tonight

jammeriw1
jammeriw1

I hardly ever post anything on this forum.  But I read through a lot of post.  For me, just seeing how others can lift people up when they are the most vulnerable is enough to soothe my fears and help my mood.  Very rarely to do I make posts of my own.


tonight is different.  I am in my bathroom, in a ball shaking with anxiety.  I feel sick to my stomach.  Too sick to leave the safely of my bathroom.


I found out a couple of weeks ago that I am pregnant with my 3rd child.  This baby was planned and very much wanted.  But now, the fears and anxieties are taking a very strong hold of me.  I can't seem to calm myself down as I am normally able to do.


I am 39 with no health problems.  No health history with either of my other 2 pregnancies. But given my age, I am very worried.  I thought I had worked this out beforehand, and decided I wanted to take the risk.  


my husband is an extremely laid back guy, he has never understood my anxiety. So I keep it from him. I'm turning to others, as I rarely do on this forum for words of comfort.



 I really need it. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this post.

barista916
barista916
Hi! I am only 25 but I suffer from anxiety as well. I am so sorry that you are feeling like this! If I may ask, is there something that is causing the anxiety or is it just an anxiety attack? For me, cold water helps a lot, drinking it or even chewing on ice when I am having an anxiety attack. Is there anything I can do to help?

please let me know. Thinking of you.
mtd
mtd
You should be sharing this with your husband. There is absolutely nothing wrong in doing it. He is your mate. It’s what Mates do, support each other. It’s not an unusual thing to have second thoughts about decisions made. However, the deed is done, you are pregnant. Now more than ever, you need the support of your husband in talking you through this low time. How can he help if you don’t share your concerns with him? He does have a say in this, he is the father, give him a chance to step up and be your support, after all, you are in this together. Your feelings right now are probably close to normal, just a bit of overthinking and anxiety mixed in which causes it to seem worse than it really is. Talk to him, share your feelings, let him help you, don’t shut him out.
jammeriw1
jammeriw1
Thank you both for your kind words I really appreciate it. And I agree, how can my husband help if I don’t communicate. I will try to do so
mtd
mtd
Exactly! You said the pregnancy was planned, it’s obvious he was in on the plan. This is a beautiful opportunity for the two of you to draw closer. By hiding your feelings, it shuts him out. It really sounds like he would be supportive and help you. Giving him an opportunity to be part of what you are feeling right now just helps him be part of it all. Now isn’t that what being together is all about? The good and the bad. Don’t hesitate to come back here and run things by us. We will do our best to help you in the right direction. God bless you and your family!
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Keep writing it out and sort out how you want to share it with your husband.

Take the time to relax, to find calm, and balance your feelings naturally, through walking, taking care of yourself and know you are a part of a group that cares, understands, and accepts you just as you are.
arfie
arfie
here's to hoping that this post is the start of a new strategy, jammers. a safe place to know i am not alone while i vent and sort my anxieties of the day makes a huge diff in my own anxiety management.

personally, i find it counter-productive to share too much about my anxiety with my husband. our relationship is already spread kinda thin from the pressures of parenting, building our estate, etc. adding expectations that he understand my anxiety syndrome, too, is a bit much to add to that plate. anxiety syndromes are something you can't really understand without personal experience and i am mostly grateful the love of my life was spared those insights.

i get much further on sharing with people who already understand through their personal experience. right here, in this very forum, is one of the places i find ample proof that i am not alone with the challenges.

congratulations on your pregnancy. steadying support while you work through the unexpected challenges ahead.
Lavender80
Lavender80
39 is not too old to have a child. I know many women who have perfectly healthy kids at 42. Sometimes when I feel anxious...I think about what else is going on in my life...that is causing me low levels of anxiety that I am ignoring? Sometimes our anxiety piggy backs on an issue that can be unrelated.

I'm sorry you are going thru this. As an anxiety sufferer myself, I know ignoring those feelings doesn't help either. Perhaps also focusing on all the wonderful blessings having this new child will bring into your life. We can absolutely redirect our focus and let our mind thing about something else, rather than stay in the loop.

Sending you light and love.
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
I hope that you are feeling better. Do you take an anti-anxiety medication? It can really help. Good luck with your pregnancy. A new baby sounds so exciting. What a gift to your other children.
jammeriw1
jammeriw1
Thank you so much for all of your kind responses. Just knowing that there are people out there, like me, who suffer from anxiety and “get it” is so so comforting.

I had to take some time to myself and did not want to get online. I still feel anxious. I still have feelings of dread and just general “bad feelings” does that make sense? But again, just reading messages of support do so much. Something so simple, but it has a huge impact

Thank you to all again for taking the time to read my post and send kind words. Hugs
mtd
mtd
Those feelings are coming from a lack of confidence in yourself right now.
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