Have you talked with your husband about how that conversation has triggered your anxiety? He sorta dropped a negative bomb on you there, with no positive information on how you could help. How is anyone supposed to react to that? I'd ask him specific, positive questions like "What would make you feel more included?".

Here's something that will help. Your husband shared with you his feelings. That does NOT make it your problem.

That's right.

Having said that, look at ways you can involve your husband and your daughter in a positive manner without making a big deal of it.

I would suggest keeping a private journal to find out what the event or experience is that starts this pattern. It will go a long way to help you heal.

Best wishes.

Well put it this way... my husband of 11 years apparently bottled things up in our marriage and created a whole false reality for himself to live in and he left me and my kids 2 months ago. Him talking to you about his feelings you can take that two ways. Be anxious and worried about it to the point you can't function then you are no good to your daughter yourself or your husband and make it difficult to live with yourself and for other's to live with you OR you can see this as a positive thing that he is so willing and committed to your marriage that he braved and opened up and talked with you about it. Now you can be aware of it and take it into consideration and THANK him for being open with you about his feelings and not bottling them up and leaving. Trust me... your position could be worse. Sometimes anxiety is a choice. Don't see the negative in this situation see all the good :)