Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I have a friend (well old friend ). Her sister told me she didn't like me and didn't want me at her (sister). Now the friend that doesn't like me invited me to her wedding at the end of May. I'm having a hard time committing to going. For one she doesn't like me, but I can be the bigger person and go.
My biggest anxiety is my sister is pregnant and her fianc has been in the hospital out of state for two months. He just got of like support and may not be home in time for the birth of their baby. Anyway all this with my sister happened around when I got the wedding invitation and I forgot to respond. That turned into anxiety about going.
If I really want to I could probably go but my sister lost her apartment and has to move next week. She is 8 months pregnant so she needs all the help she can get. Mi feel like I don't really have time to go. The week before my friends wedding I have to help my sister clean her apartment and if we can't get it done (which we may not if we only have a few evenings to do it) the Saturday of the wedding would be her last chance to finish. I don't want to commit myself to going to the wedding and not be able to help my sister.
I feel like I have to go only because she went to my wedding (after saying she couldn't and her sister talked her into it). I feel like I'm a bad person if I don't go but I just feel a little stretched to the max right now. Oh and she is actually already married they got married at the court house and are just celebrating.
I don't want to make a decision based on anxiety.
My biggest anxiety is my sister is pregnant and her fianc has been in the hospital out of state for two months. He just got of like support and may not be home in time for the birth of their baby. Anyway all this with my sister happened around when I got the wedding invitation and I forgot to respond. That turned into anxiety about going.
If I really want to I could probably go but my sister lost her apartment and has to move next week. She is 8 months pregnant so she needs all the help she can get. Mi feel like I don't really have time to go. The week before my friends wedding I have to help my sister clean her apartment and if we can't get it done (which we may not if we only have a few evenings to do it) the Saturday of the wedding would be her last chance to finish. I don't want to commit myself to going to the wedding and not be able to help my sister.
I feel like I have to go only because she went to my wedding (after saying she couldn't and her sister talked her into it). I feel like I'm a bad person if I don't go but I just feel a little stretched to the max right now. Oh and she is actually already married they got married at the court house and are just celebrating.
I don't want to make a decision based on anxiety.
You can let friend know "Thank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I would love to be there but I've already committed to helping my pregnant sister move that day. I hope it goes well for you and I wish you the very best." And if you can and you want to, send them a gift for roughly the same value as the gift they gave you.
And if you don't like someone - or they don't like you - it's not worth trying to keep up appearances unless you absolutely have to (your bosses wife for example).
The thing is, it's a wedding, so the bride and everyone there will be wrapped up in the event and they won't think about the people who weren't able to be there. But if you do go, it sounds like you'll have a miserable time. So what's more important, taking care of yourself and helping your sister in her time of need or pleasing someone who doesn't like you and probably won't notice your absence anyway?