Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Where to start with this....
I'm beginning to feel hopeless, but I know that all hope is not lost. I recently started therapy, and it's been going well. I've learned some techniques to help with anxiety - and they're helping, but lately, I find that I've been having more anxiety than I did before therapy. Perhaps because everything is coming to the surface? I don't know...
I lost my mom almost 4 years ago and my brother 17 years ago. I'm 29 and my dad lives 20+ hours driving distance away. He ran, while I stayed. He and my mom were divorced when she passed, and had been for some time. His family was never very close, and to be honest, I could pass them on the street and never know that we are related. It's a long story, and I've simply accepted that the only family I had was on my mom's side. Sadly, in the 4 years since my mom died - so has my grandma and my aunt - the only two ties I had to any history of my mom. This is the first full year without any "family" outside of my husband and our daughter, and it's been tough. Lately I've just felt so sad and discouraged. I've had what I consider terrible anxiety - so much so that I had to leave work 3 days this past month because I became physically ill. My anxiety manifests as nausea and fight or flight. Nausea specifically is a trigger for me because prior to my mom and brother passing, both of which were sudden and unexpected, they both complained of nausea.
These past two days all I want to do is just cry....My anxiety makes me feel crazy, it makes me feel like I don't have control over my life, and it scares me that it is only going to get worse. I am a planner, I am a control freak, I am an alpha...so not being in control of this is taking a huge toll on me. I don't even know where to turn anymore...
My therapist suggested EMDR, and I've put if off because I am scared to relive the day I found my mom...I'm scared of opening up the emotions I've tried so hard to push away, but I also understand that the only way to get better is to face "this".
I guess why I am here is I just need support and encouragement. I need to know that it will get better and that life won't always be like this...Everyone I know with anxiety is still very much in it, and I don't have anyone that is able to talk about how they got through it. I'm starting to lose hope, and am desperately trying to find it...
I'm beginning to feel hopeless, but I know that all hope is not lost. I recently started therapy, and it's been going well. I've learned some techniques to help with anxiety - and they're helping, but lately, I find that I've been having more anxiety than I did before therapy. Perhaps because everything is coming to the surface? I don't know...
I lost my mom almost 4 years ago and my brother 17 years ago. I'm 29 and my dad lives 20+ hours driving distance away. He ran, while I stayed. He and my mom were divorced when she passed, and had been for some time. His family was never very close, and to be honest, I could pass them on the street and never know that we are related. It's a long story, and I've simply accepted that the only family I had was on my mom's side. Sadly, in the 4 years since my mom died - so has my grandma and my aunt - the only two ties I had to any history of my mom. This is the first full year without any "family" outside of my husband and our daughter, and it's been tough. Lately I've just felt so sad and discouraged. I've had what I consider terrible anxiety - so much so that I had to leave work 3 days this past month because I became physically ill. My anxiety manifests as nausea and fight or flight. Nausea specifically is a trigger for me because prior to my mom and brother passing, both of which were sudden and unexpected, they both complained of nausea.
These past two days all I want to do is just cry....My anxiety makes me feel crazy, it makes me feel like I don't have control over my life, and it scares me that it is only going to get worse. I am a planner, I am a control freak, I am an alpha...so not being in control of this is taking a huge toll on me. I don't even know where to turn anymore...
My therapist suggested EMDR, and I've put if off because I am scared to relive the day I found my mom...I'm scared of opening up the emotions I've tried so hard to push away, but I also understand that the only way to get better is to face "this".
I guess why I am here is I just need support and encouragement. I need to know that it will get better and that life won't always be like this...Everyone I know with anxiety is still very much in it, and I don't have anyone that is able to talk about how they got through it. I'm starting to lose hope, and am desperately trying to find it...
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My day...today...misplaced my debit card...didn't realize it until I got to the register after shopping to a full cart. Used a different debit card and pulled apart everything looking for missing debit card before I left parking lot. Got home, dropped keys. So now I have a missing debit card, missing keys. A full cartload to unload and put away. I got everything put away.Dumped purse for a...
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I don't really know how to label this but I having a rough week and I can't say it's one thing.... I have a lot on my plate which is nothing new and I try to cope in many positive ways and do but I still have my moments.My kids more so my daughters talk to me about everything which I know it's cause of comfort and we are close.... however I really struggle with the venting about their dad which...
Sorry, Snowangel, that you have having this. You feel isolated and you are grieving. ...
/ Come to think of it, when my parents died about 10 years ago I didn't have a lot of feelings of grief. Not for awhile; maybe once or twice later. I've regrets, I wish I had this better and that better; I feel I could have been a much better son.
I feel guilty but not so much -- grieving. So it's obvious I'm bottling something up. When you say (maybe)"everything is coming to the surface," it makes sense to me. If true then IMO you'll soon be out of the woods.
A person has to trust their therapist if they are going to do any of this exotic therapy like you mention.
get well soon,
Caleb(Paul)
You are not alone, those you love are in your heart.
My divorce put me in a panic attack that lasted a year. Full time panic, or 'fight or flight' as you call it, adrenaline and cortisone too, which is a steroid and bad for you.
You say you want to cry: that's exactly what you have to do. It's the cure. Crying helps you adjust to the new reality. It processes the chemicals that are clogging up your brain and causing the misfires. (okay that was more metaphoric than factual but I stand by it!) Your life has changed, and it is never going to change back, and you have to do the rightful grieving for that. You have suffered loss. You have to adjust.
You say you are an alpha and always in control: I actually think that this is part of the bad life thinking that causes a person to snap and break down. I had a huge sense of responsibility which caused me to be a control freak. Which caused the rigid hold on myself which caused the snap of the breakdown. You have to release the stranglehold on yourself and your emotions and if you're anything like me, your expectations of others. I found that one very hard to let go of!
You'll have to learn a new way to operate: giving yourself time for emotional processing. Giving yourself the opportunity to cry. Time spent without entertainment; no telly, no computer, no books. Time to reflect. Quiet walks. rose petal strewn baths. That stuff. Those sorts of things allow you actual time to process and time is the only cure for what you have. Time is the only cure for grief; so be suer to give yourself enough. You'll do tons of crying and feeling hopeless, and the tears will wash all that away.
Down the track you might realise you can contact your dad's family whenever you like. You are not alone. They're probably very curious about you. Just because your dad never introduced you to them doesn't mean they rejected your dad. You never know your luck. :)
And you're perfectly normal. :) You've just come to a part of life you didn't know was there. My stars I wish I still didn't know.... :p
This is a time for feeling, and discovery. It's a new landscape and you've got no ability to see, so you have to feel your way slowly and gently.
Let yourself be what you are, observe yourself, discover yourself. Don't inflict this ism or that ism on yourself. Give yourself a break. :)