Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Today is the second anniversary of the fatal car wreck which took my son (35) and his wife leaving 3 young children (6, 4 and 8 months) orphaned. This morning all that still feels like the immaculate conception of triplets at the age of 65. I have taken to calling my only grandchildren, "Foster Kids" because the grandmother platitudes are hitting my heart like a harsh reminder of just how much we have lost. Spoiling them rotten while I provide their favorite vacation spots is a far cry from the demands of getting them through Coronaville, etc. "Foster Mother" describes the current dynamics of our relationships far better than any Grandma stereotypes. I miss fitting those stereotypes to the best of my availability. This ain't even close to the same thing on either side of the Grand relations.
Warren Zevon continues providing the tune and most of the words for the grieving process. "Sometimes while I am doing simple things around the house, I want to think of you and smile. You know your tied to me like the buttons on my blouse. Keep me in your heart for a while. I will hold you in my thoughts, I will take you to my dreams, I will touch you when you come into view. While the Fall is falling, I will watch your children grow and feel you right next to me."
No advice, please. Just processing. . . Support appreciated.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
"I fear not the storms for I am learning to navigate my ship." ~Louisa May Alcott
Thank you.
Day after update
I don't believe psychic wounds like this don't gain **closure** but? ? ? Hubs and I were able to talk about ^it^ yesterday. Herstorically, our shared pattern has been to repress the emotions attached whenever we are around each other until one of us blows and the domestic tit-for-tat begins. The skirmishes can be brutal in the way they attack everything BUT the actual trigger for however long it takes for us to ever the whats of the yaddah blahs.
The loss of our son, grand relations and retirement remains a brutal and open wound, but? ? ?
Progress over perfection. It's not about being perfect. It's about working it out.