There is no set age\time limit on when to lose your virginity or when to gain sexual experience and how much you should have. These are very personal and very private topics exclusive to only you. No one has a right to judge you on them ever. If a guy/girl won't date you over you lacking those things than you shouldn't be dating them because you deserve someone who will understand you and respect you inside and out. Especially your reasons for why you are still a virgin and have no sexual or dating experiences. If they really want to be with you those things will not ever be an issue for them.

As for dating I'm no help there. I dated once in high school and I'm 46 now and never dated again for very complicated reasons I'm still trying to figure out.

There is nothing wrong with you and you are not a loser. You're totally normal. Don't make yourself crazy over this. :)

You are who you think you are. If you think you are a loser you will feel like you are. We are what we think. Be proud that you prioritized your education, not a darn thing wrong with that. But one does need to have a social life too. Relax about it all. For the anxiety, I recommend Dr Claire Weekes method of acceptance. It will absolutely help you gain control of those thoughts and feelings that aren’t helping you.

I think it's wonderful that you are a 27 year old virgin. It shows you have discretion, morals, values, self worth... you don't just sleep around to feel better about yourself. Too many people lost their virginity too young, and now regret it. Or they felt pressured into doing it, by society. I know so many people that wish they would have waited.

I lost my virginity with a boyfriend who was also a virgin. We were very much in love, in a months long relationship at the time we did it, and we had plans to get married. I am glad that I waited for him, and that I have that very special memory. (Oh and by the way, we ended up breaking up a year later and going our separate ways, so.... you just never know how life will turn out).

Don't force it. As posted above, nothing at all wrong with you! To be honest, I think most men would like to meet a virgin.... so, be careful who you end up sleeping with. Make sure that they truly care about you and want a relationship, and that they plan to stick around. For me, it was a great experience because I was in love when it happened, and we were in a committed relationship with plans to marry. I hope that you will wait for that special someone also. You will find them.

Take your time dating. When you meet that special guy, you will just know, and it will be all that much more meaningful to you. There's no rush. 27 is young. Good luck!

There is nothing wrong with you. You are just doing you. You may be asexual or have a low sex drive or simply just not met someone who you feel interested in and/or comfortable engaging in physical/sexual intimacy with.

But none of that means you are destined to spend your life alone. You may just need a different or wider dating pool.

And when on a date, try focusing on what you think of the person sitting across from you instead of what that person thinks of you. After all, if you don't find them romantically/sexually interesting for whatever reason, what they think of you is moot. They are not in your driver's seat, you are!

Here's to you making the right choice for you!

Writing it out helps you to release what's creating anxiety overwhelming moments.

Rather than keeping this on the front burner, try taking a moment and educate your feelings through practicing just being social even to yourself. This will help you to figure out what you want to do for fun and brings smiles naturally.

You got this!

Oh wow. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You've got a classic case of OVERGENERALIZATION. You made a choice to pursue your education as your top priority. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact you should congratulate yourself since I'm guessing you were at the top of your class. Does that sound like a loser to you? But priorities can be adjusted. If you really wanna date and perhaps find a supportive relationship that's all very good. My suggestion:: Read this book immediately. The Feeling Good Handbook, David D. Burns MD. I also suggest the companion workbook. If you follow it, and DO the exercises included, it will almost immediately change your self-perception. And you've got a key advantage. YOU'RE YOUNG. I'm 66. Last year my wife divorced me... for good reason I'll admit.. and I wallowed in a black hole of remorse and self-doubt like nothing I've ever experienced. The Burns book, plus meditation, changed my whole perspective. Life is too damn short to beat yourself up. Stop that now and find the person inside you that will help you succeed at all that you wish for in life. I'm dating again myself after 20 years. I'll admit. It's a jungle out there. I don't go into it with any expectation other than to have a good time. Yeah I get disappointed. But that's life.. Move on. If you click, you'll click. If not, keep in the game. You'll find someone. I guarantee it. Take care of YOURSELF first and make the relationship with your own head a good one. If you do that you'll become infinitely more attractive to a potential soulmate. Best of luck.

What is it that you really want, to date? What exactly is that? Using others is disgusting, losing someone is heart breaking. People are stupid, you should get a cat. You're still really quite young, I admire your maturity in waiting. Take it slow and realize what dating used to be before it became a career for narcs. You seem intelligent and sensitive, am I wrong? How would you feel about a love that lasts, a marriage. Respect yourself, you're a quality person, don't forget that. Having said that... I too find myself lonely after being manipulated by someone I thought was my "soul mate" be she was a narcissist playing. Self loathing and desperation was her gift to me. So I do know how it feels to feel like a loser. Sleeping around is bad advice.

Just reading this, I'd say be a little careful, don't jump too quickly into an amorous encounter. It makes sense to start dating and meeting people. I think you'll find some quirky people, sadly some that merit some caution, and some nice people perhaps with limited social skills, sometimes a diamond in the rough.

Start trying to meet people in different situations. Looks have some importance so get a nice outfit etc, but obviously do things that make you feel comfortable. (there are limits, picked up my niece from the hair stylist, I knew things cost, but was surprised that highlights, etc cost $525, not suggesting that). Again, please don't go to men's apartments, etc until you know them reasonably well.

Just as it took some expertise in your educational area, it will take some time in the dating area. Most men though would not regard your background as negative, and be careful not to be self-critical.

Just a little heads up, if you keep posting you're a VIRGIN you will attract the wrong type of personality...

I will suggest you keep that fact to yourself and let the persona find out on their own when the time comes for you to be ready and share in a more serious tone for yourself.

Other than that, you come off as deliberately crying for attention in a boastful way to some sense... Find yourself some kind of support group to share how you truly feel at face value to ensure you get what you want out of your RANT.

It's good for you to be as you are, the fact it's even healthy for you to remain abstinent, but like I say, it's a personal matter and sounds imprudent to bring up as a light topic...

Personal counceling for a more serious outcome is Awesome too!!

Welcome to this forum! You’ve gotten a variety of responses. There is nothing wrong with you. My sister is retired and never dated and my guess is she’s a virgin, too. She’s enjoyed her career. I’m going to mention how your generation does not date like my generation did. Mostly it seems it’s people not connecting. Or just hook ups but not long term relationships. My son is a little older than you and doesn’t date. I thought he was a virgin until I looked in one of his moving boxes and found things indicating sexual activity. I said nothing to him but I do think it’s sad how hard it is for him to connect with others. He’s a good man, too. Friendly, smart, not in bars. But maybe he is a virgin like you, I don’t know. There hasn’t been a girlfriend in ages. I think one has to seek out like minded people at this point. I’m thinking religious organizations and groups might be full of serious about dating and marriage minded people. Maybe meet up groups in a hobby you are interested in. Volunteering. Online is mostly fake accounts from what I’ve been reading. Good luck and welcome again!