Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Broken_Bridges72
Broken_Bridges72

I've been up since 1am.  I feel I'm having some sort of mental breakdown.  


Roomie is no help to me.  Why would he be? He doesnt know how.  I plan on working all weekend now that I am recovered from surgury.  It is Mercury Retrograde, not a good time to make major decisions.  A few weeks ago i gave my 2 weeks notice and boss convinced me to stay.  I dont think this was best for my psyche.  I had relief then felt guilt for leaving so I stayed and now here I am conflicted again.  I should have stuck to my guns but like every other situation in the past, I gave in to help someone else feel better at my confidence's expense.


Roomie has quit just about every job he has started but has convinced me I should not leave this job.  I look at it this way, this is a small family owned business, the owners just bought a house out of state and want to spend more time there.  There was barely enough work to keep me busy and they hired a new person for the front desk which was where I was sitting.  I was told by my boss that she will be hiring someone to take her place that can do accounting as well.  I am not an accountant so where does that leave me in the picture? I am to train the newbie. I'm confused and bitter. I need to start thinking long term. I'll be 50 soon and need to look for a job that will last long term. 


rmb
rmb
If concerned about your future with the company you can always initiate a conversation with your boss about what she envisions your role in the company now and in the future. Then you have knowledge in order to make an informed decision. Even if she says she’s not sure yet, that is still information that can help in your decision making.

I proactively have these conversations with my boss as the company I work for grows, changes, etc. Just had one this week in fact.
arfie
arfie
It is easier to find a better job when you already have a job. From that base belief I conjecture that it is better to keep you current job while you channel your work anxieties into finding a better job. Just believing. . . It remains yours to sort.

To me, work on my self-esteem issues is a different can of worms, altogether. My damaged self-esteem can complicate the most idyllic of opportunities. Basing my self-esteem building on outside influences such as job titles, bosses, romantic partners, etc., complicates more than it solves.
mikaelaloves
mikaelaloves
hi ! I understand that feeling of deciding to do some thing but don’t stick through with it because you don’t want to hurt someone else. Life is a precious thing and we only have one. If you feel deep down inside that you should leave then leave. Yes you may feel bad but you have to move forward because life isn’t about stopping it’s constantly going. You said that you want to find a long lasting job. What you should do is find that job , apply and go on interviews while keeping the job and you are at now. That way you are not jobless trying to find another job while you have bills to pay. Once you found a job that you really like and you get that job then you can go and quit the job right now . Hoped that helped !
Winter
Winter
That is one of the horrific things about having anxiety attacks, the person usually has low self-esteem. The damaged self-esteem makes the person feel the person lose out on a lot of oppertunities that come their way. It is a very sad moment when that happens to the individual.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Take the time to look at jobs now.

You're staying in that job to help the owners train new people. So, continue looking at other jobs and when you find one that fits you, then give your notice.

Anxiety is a helper. So use it as your helper.
Broken_Bridges72
Broken_Bridges72
It is very difficult to take off from work even for drs appts. I am salary so if I leave even for a drs appt i am expected to make that time up. I do have a weeks vacation so I thought about taking it and looking. Even then, I may not get calls back right away.
arfie
arfie
The only jobs I've ever managed to find in two weeks were nightmare jobs. In the long run, it pays to be selective and wait out the extra screening, etc., thoughtful, far-sighted employers like to use.

In my world, using that two week vacation to relax and clear out the mental cobwebs would be an investment in helping me think more clearly while exploring my growth opportunities.

Making up the time I invest in job interviews, etc., is just paying my dues. It takes what it takes.
Broken_Bridges72
Broken_Bridges72
Yes, I think I'm going to request my week off.
rmb
rmb
What helped me whenever looking for a different job is creating structure and designating a set time around the effort. I am most productive in the morning so I’d set aside a designated time period, every Saturday morning to apply for jobs, prep for interviews etc. Doing that helped stay accountable, focused and motivated. I would occasionally carve out time after the work day of needed but found it hard to really focus on job hunting work after a full day of working.

For most people, seeking a job while working is like having two jobs at once, the job you have and the job of looking for a job. If you are serious about leaving and finding a good job, the time and effort put in pays off eventually. If you have to make up a couple hours here and there for interviews, it’ll be worth it in the long run.
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