Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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Booch94
Booch94

me and my girlfriend got into arguemnt about some guy and even tho she was wrong for what she was doing . I took to far i told her alot of hurtful things like i never wanted see her again i didnt mean it she's carry my baby she's pregnant i was so mad and upset i was shakng and just ready do something dumb this was all over text i wasnt next to her or nothing but shes really hurt by things i said . Is there anything i can do and mean time to learn how control my anger ? so this wont happen again ! 

thatdirklalonde
thatdirklalonde
Well first I'd make sure she really knows how sorry you are. But with anger management, sometimes, it's better to get into the mindset of thinking before you speak. Start with everyday conversations, and just be careful with your words, but don't make it too much you get anxiety over it, but enough so maybe you'll be able to learn to think before you say anything regretful. And another things, I'd advise you to always take very deep breathes when you feel anger coming on, long deep breaths can help calm you down, and I've used it plenty of times. That's all I have for now, hope it helps
bonusjack
bonusjack
Dirklalonde has some good advice, I must say. I also admire how hard you are trying. Having a baby coming is one of the most stressful times in peoples lives, and if you are already unsettled it can just make things seem impossible.

To keep a relationship together, you need to say 10 nice things for every mean and critical thing. I am not joking about this. Get busy saying nice things to your partner today! If you are thinking harsly about them, consider what might be the nicest way to say you feel necessary, or if you are feeling really angry, just set your thoughts aside and work on something less irritating, until you are both ready to have a calm discussion.

You can never unsay a hateful word that leaves your mouth.
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