Isolating yourself when you're angry is such a good idea. Even a few
minutes can be calming.

You probably don't want to walk around wearing headphones, but some of them totally block out sound. When I worked, I would sometime come home and go into a room and close the door for about ten minutes, just to get out of the mood from being in a miserable work atmosphere for nine hours. I usually felt like I had too much to do, but it helped when I did take a few minutes to relax.

Relax.

daily I struggle with anger. I often get upset when others invade my space. although I have no authority to control their decisions, I feel angry and find it hard to contain myself. as many others.... I also isolate myself so I don't make the wrong decision and get charges pressed on me!

Invading my space is a HUGE trigger for me. Also, people touching my things.
One roommate right now does this, and he has done a couple of other things that really bother me. I have no idea how to approach him about it without screaming at him, being rude to him, or worse. I do not want to create any drama, but there are a couple things that are bothering me to the point that I avoid being around when he is Home. I'm not sure how to handle this properly.

hearing someone play a piano loudly and terribly would drive me up the wall!!! maybe I would go for a walk, or the noise canceling headphones is a good idea, or maybe like a compromise, say so and so play between certain hours

My West Highland White Terrier will stare at me and whine. I've decided to rename his breed a whineriner. He sure is annoying although he's very cute.

I have so much anger inside, I wonder if it's turning into bitterness...I have been hurt a lot, and now my grandmother (also only room mate)'s relatively small infractions keep me inwardly seething at her all the time, some times I let it out by slamming doors, and even throwing a shoe or phone against a dresser or wall, We are always yelling. I feel like it is keeping me in a chronic state or bad anxiety ;-(

I want to share something with you that had came to my mind. When I was about 19 years old, I would come home from school (college), go upstairs to my room, set my book bag down and listen to music until 1:00 am. As I thought about that I thought "What was the matter with me? Why did I do something like that?" I view myself now and see that I'm upset about several things. I hear others believing that I'm not really upset or I'm just saying that but I'm fucking furious because I feel that my life had been screwed up. I try to display a smile (which is hard), but deep inside I'm not happy at all. I had some who used to think that I was unhappy because my mom was not happy but that is not true. Like I always say "they do not live here in my home and they certainly do not know what the hell is going on here at home". Oh shit! excuse my language but I'm trying to keep the words inside.

It seems like outside and nightmares are controlling our home. Damn I don't know anymore..... I'm sorry that this did not help you onyx but I just wanted to share what I used to do when I was that age and was often told that I withdrew myself from others to much. See we moved from California to Ohio when I was a teenager. When we lived there, our lives did not seem any different then, it was almost like living in California but in a different environment. The same thing is happening now. I wonder if moving would help ease some of the pain we are now going through now?

Things that other people do make me so angry too. It's mainly extreme things though. Like when people abuse or rape or murder or self people and such. It's stuff like that that I can't handle.

sell** not self

I too suffer from anger/rage problems, but try to now smile and walk away or go blank from all emotion. I noticed then I am like watching a movie, and others are reacting, yelling, slamming doors, crying, in pain and I stay watching or listening now. I used to be involved and it was total drama. I try to live by do not take anything personally, as it is THEM, and don't make assumptions, etc. This is hard, but with practice can be done. We are all a work in progress until the end.....
learning/trying to overcome/trying to love......we are in earth school and it is the hardest place in the universe!!!!! So let's pat ourselves on the back for doing the best we can at the moment and striving to be our best selves!

Wow! I thought I was the only one that feels angry over the actions of other's. I'm glad I found this group. I need people that can understand how I feel, and that are willing to share ideas on how to get out of these moods.
I have lived in my house 29 years now, and the next door neighbors have been here at least that long. They have been a problem this whole time. We (my husband and I) have tried to show them what good neighbors do, but they seem to think that we are dumb for helping them out. Now, we have yet another problem. They park their cars in front of our house, even when there is no one parked in front of their house. It seems that they see our house as theirs. I have talked to them, I have sent them a nice cordial letter by mail, and I have even placed our city trash cans in front of our house to give them the message. Nothing has helped. The police said that the street is free and they are breaking no laws. What about neighborly respect laws? Anyway, I know I can't do anything about it, I know that the only thing is to work on myself and somehow finding acceptance of the fact that people are people and some are not respectful, but how do I find that acceptance? I need to find an internal solution to this because I am allowing them to ruin my days. I'm so obsessed at times that I just want to move. But realistically, I know that I will find "raunchy" people everywhere I go. It seems that our culture is getting very crude. So sad.
Thanks for listening.

When things get quiet spend 2-5 minutes relaxing or meditating. When you get mad, bite your tongue before saying anything and go spend some time alone to do the things you enjoy doing.

Onyx, I am with you, I get angry over people actions. It's a tougher context b/c I'm at work when I get upset. When 1 of my co-workers pisses me off I usually just bottle it up.
Today, I actually caught her talking about me. Can you believe that shit.
& you can't get angry or raise hell, b/c there's no quicker way to get fired than to be some big guy over 6' chewing out a woman. It's not even right to do that anyway (don't get me wrong).
It's just ....I don't know. The only time I confronted her was at a meeting when she was acting like a complete shit w/ her snide remarks. Then when she accused me I told her in a low hard voice "Your WRONG" There wasn't anything my boss did to contradict me, thank God. & she was, and she cleared up the mess after the meeting.
I have to really be careful at work.

I visited a holistic doctor a few weeks ago and received something very beneficial. Now I should tell you that I'm a guy who upon seeing a car cut off another car, I will go after that car and try to do it to him. When someone leaves their empty cups and a wet table at starbucks I will call out to them and order them to throw it away before I sit down. You get the point. My doctor taught me two things. Breathing and meditation, two things that never worked for me in the past. Breath for 2-3 minutes focusing only upon your breath. Eyes closed. Only on the breath. Inhalation and exhalation through the nose. And this is followed by 2-3 minutes of nothing. Simply thinking about nothing. Inevitably foreign thoughts will come into your mind, so you gently say, "cancel cancel," and go back to nothingness. It's tough at first but after doing it three times a day for the past couple of weeks, I do find myself calmer and more productive as a person in general.