Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Hello. Um, I never thought of myself as having an anger problem, but I think I might. See, the thing is when I was growing up I was never allowed to be angry. Valid or not, if you were angry you were "being ridiculous" or "out of control". Nobody was allowed to raise voices or argue. You "discussed". That might seem fine, but now as an adult I have no idea how to handle anger.
If someone yells at me I completely freak out (fear). If I get angry I just internalize it, even if it tears me apart. I have severe depression, anxiety, and a host of pains from being so tense. If someone validly upsets me face to face I automatically fold because I don't know how to be angry in a healthy way and when I try I feel embarrassed. Does that make sense?
If someone yells at me I completely freak out (fear). If I get angry I just internalize it, even if it tears me apart. I have severe depression, anxiety, and a host of pains from being so tense. If someone validly upsets me face to face I automatically fold because I don't know how to be angry in a healthy way and when I try I feel embarrassed. Does that make sense?
Have you considered seeking therapy? I suggest seeking out a therapist because of all the other things you suffer from too that are possibly associated with your childhood. At least then a therapist can help you work through some of those things. I took therapy, nothing long term, but the time I spent talking and working with my therapist was really worth it. I got a lot of insight as to why I had so much pain and anger inside.
I really hope things work out for you!