Oh Deborah I feel so bad for you. What a long time to have to worry about the funeral. When my FIL passed years ago it was before Veterans Day and the military would not do the burial then. So we had almost a week of waiting, then a two day wake and the funeral. And then Thanksgiving so the family was still pushed together.

I know you will handle this with grace, for the sake of Rollie if nothing else. Remember that there is nothing that his family or anyone else can do to hurt him now. If they feel the need to make a spectacle of themselves well that is their problem. The chaplain and the funeral director will do their jobs and you will have a lovely service.

And then you can begin the healing process.

The wait preceding a funeral is really difficult.
You will feel much better after it is over.
It is your last good-bye ( after many) and gives a finality to the death.
I hope and pray everything goes well.

yea this funeral is really weighing on my mind, I will be so glad when it is over.

Dear Deb,

I also has a bit of a wait for the funeral, but for me that was ok...I did have a good deal of anxiety the evening before and the morning of the wake, funeral, service....

I did ok with my in-laws, having determined to take the high road.....but I did experience it all as tremendously sad......

I am glad that you will soon have Rollie's funeral behind you. You have been magnificent...his family's problems are theirs, let them be theirs and let the chaplain and funeral director handle any issues.....

I will keep you in my special thoughts as this week goes by and you approach Friday.....

hugs....

Deb, Friday is almost here. What a lot of sense the decision to not have people come up to speak was. The chaplain will be close by you as will those who love you and loved Rollie too.
Prayers now through Friday. You will make it. You have always made it in the worst of the worst times. So no doubt at all that it will be very very hard but you will continue to be loving, wise and strong.
Love,
Sandy

Ken's funeral brought a lot of closure for me. It was a beautiful day. I appreciated the kind word that others shared.

I am so worry that you have to worry about Rollie's family at this time. Try to celebrate Rollie's life in spite of them.

Tomorrow is the day you will find that closure everyone is talking about.
Just like Tigg says, his family can't hurt Rollie anymore and if they act like a bunch of fools, it is all on them. You are not responsible for them or their behavior. You can hold your head up high and know you were a loving wife that did everything possible for Rollie. They can't even say they helped... Just be your gracious self and stick together with your kids.. Ignore the rest of them as if they were flowers on the wallpaper. Sending prayers for tomorrow.

...sending prayers for tomorrow....hugs....

Am thinking of you today and sending my prayers that all will go as you planned. No nasties..hugs

My prayers for a peaceful day.
Sending good vibes..

Prayers that today is peaceful and loving...as it should be. May love surround you all.

God Bless you , Rollie and all of your family.

They stole Rollie's urn! Yes, they tri,ked the workers who were putting his urn in the niche and grabbed his urn and then took off with it in their car! The police are now involved and it is illegal to steal anyones remains! I amstunned I will write more later

Oh Deborah!!! How horrible.....I am at a loss for words! How could someone do such a deplorable, dispicable thing!?!

I will send up some prayers immediately!

GRAVEROBBERS!!!!

I'm so sorry Deb....Sending you BIG HUGS!!!
Keep us posted.
Love you,
Carolyn

OMG ! What a freak show.


OK, Deb, NOW is the time to get rid of your frustrations
with these Jack-A$$es !

OMG what cruel and evil ppl they are. time to bring out the big guns....
love ya
juanita