Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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acinorev92 12/28/2012

I'm 20 years old..which you may think is too young to have a problem with alcohol..yes, I've heard it...but truth is I do have a real problem..

The part many won't understand...is I do allow myself to drink socially, with very specific rules for myself. I can't be craving it because of the addiction, be angry, sad, or depressed...all emotions that pushed me to alcohol & caused me to have so many issues..

I went cold turkey for a year, absolutely no alcohol with the exception of a couple honest slip ups, not thinking about it & having a sip of champagne/wine at a family holiday/party. It was really hard, but it gave me the willpower I have today.

I may have strong willpower, but that doesn't mean I don't struggle just as everyone else does... This christmas season has been especially hard on me... A year ago to this day I was unexpectedly, unknowingly pregnant..not at all in my plan..only, I didn't know I was pregnant till after many pointless doctors visits in which I was complaining of pain until new years day (2am) I was in so much pain we called 911 & at 4am the ambulance came...I miscarried a couple hours later in the hospital. It wasn't at all planned, and I thought I'd be okay..I was in shock for a while but I moved past it.. But, this holiday season, knowing that a year ago I was pregnant has caused me to fight with severe depression...and it's taking every part of me to turn alcohol away...I'm not sure how much longer I'll be able to turn it away tho...

The hardest time is coming, I made it through christmas, but I'm not sure I can handle new years without some support from people who are pushing the bottle away as well..

I almost caved last night...it was one of the worst nights I've had...I can't believe how close I came to caving, but I'm also so proud of myself. I just don't think I can keep doing it alone...

acinorev92 12/31/2012

Stickywick, I am sorry to hear about your sister and how your mom refused to actually see what was going on & help, it's always so sad to hear that parents can be so blind and ignorant. I wanted to ask how. You are doing with your eating disorder now & how your sister is with her drug problem? Neither are easy things to conquer.
I wouldn't make it so black & white and say I'm an alcoholic because of what I've been through.. I drank because of what happened to me, but I became an alcoholic thereafter... It's hard to explain.. I don't blame others for my problem with alcohol, I don't see it as being anyone's fault...it was my coping mechanism, and it soon became an addiction tgat I still fight with. I became addicted to self mutilation as well. I have a problem with addiction, I didn't know this when I was younger, and I'm not sure it would have made a difference had I known....but biologically, I do have a problem with addiction, and I can aknowledge that and know it is not my fault entirely that I struggle kicking the alcohol and the self mutilation, among other things..

LornaR 12/31/2012

I relate too. I have an eating disorder and have also self mutilated. I have dissociative disorders. Have you had that checked out? Like I have a bad case of depersonalization and that alone causes a lot of depression and anxiety. I have some help for it now from two therapists! I guess they thought I was pretty ill. It's true. But I do feel like I am finally progressing.

stickywick 01/01/2013

Thanks for asking! I've been free from eating disorder for 10 years but I still have to make conscious decisions on a somewhat regular basis not to fall into my own traps. In other words, I can have a great meal with my family, and then have a thought that I'd better skip a meal the next day or I might get "fat." I know this is the disorder talking so I ignore it, and eat three healthy meals every day regardless.
And most days I don't think about it. I just enjoy life, food, etc
My sister is a mess. She's in and out of recovery and we haven't spoken in 3 years as she used in my daughters room. I told her I love her, but can't accept that in my home. She's never come back, returned calls, or called me. Sigh.

I know the things that happened to me fueled my ED,and my ED fueled my drinking. But I think I would have found my slow slide into alcoholism no matter what...it's just stitched into my wiring.
The wonderful miracle for me are AAs 12 steps. They've changed my life. I'm so grateful....

deleted_user 01/01/2013

Go to A.A. Work the program. You are not so young to be an alcoholic. My sister started drinking when she was only 10 years old. By the age of 20, she was drinking three six packs of beer a night, when everyone went to bed!! She weighed 90 pounds, and didn't eat, she just drank.She is only 5'1 inches tall. A.A. changed my sister's life, and saved her life all at the same time. But, she worked really hard. It's been 14 years now, and she never picked up another drink again! She still attends meetings every week.....you have to tell your family. If they wont eliminate drinking around you, you are going to have to distant yourself from all drinkers, that means your family too! My sister had to change her entire life, and she did.Please go to A.A.

acinorev92 01/01/2013

Joined my friends for a late dinner today at boston pizza and agreedto go bowling and to a party after..I am actually having fun tonight with friends, something I didn't think would be possible tonight..but I really want to drink... My friend told me she wouldn't let me drink tonight, because I asked her to make sure if I came out she wouldn't let me...and we're having a good time but I told her I want to drink and she suggested I have one...and only one..I don't think she understands fully why I told her NO alcohol for me...she knows what I'm going through & has gone through it too...not the alcoholic part but the miscarriage part...and the pain associated.. It's just hard to be around alcohol & not want it.. And I know I want it becauseim having fun and I want to drink socially, but also because I'm craving & want to drown out the pain I'm feeling...and that's something I can't handle. Drinking tonight would make me feel it's okay to continue drinking during this week... I just need support from people telling me not to..but to have my best friend tell me to have a drink...that makes it harder. Self controlling this!! I'm considering talking to my grief counselor about AA programs at school...see if there's anyone or any counselors there that can help..

deleted_user 01/01/2013

I am sorry to hear your friend suggested you have "just one" but then she probably has a normal reaciton to alcohol so relying on her to keep you sober is a mistake on your behalf.

Maybe AA will be the simple solution that you need. You won't know until you try it, but of course, that is up to you. You say you are going to ask your counsellor - do that if you feel it necessary.

acinorev92 01/01/2013

She knows I have a problem and she promised me she wouldn't let me drink no matter how bad I wanted to... I just requested she help me support me if I agreed to go out with her.. It was just hard to have my support person for the night encourage me to drink when she promised she wouldn't let me. Will power won again, I didn't drink, I looked at pictures of my girlfriend and her daughter and stayed sober for them.. They were my real support

deleted_user 01/01/2013

Glad to hear you stayed sober!

acinorev92 01/08/2013

Well everyone... I've decided to be sober, for good. I have officially been sober for 1 week, it's been a struggle, but my amazing girlfriend has decided completely on her own that she too wants to be sober. She has been sober for 4 days, and I am extremely proud of her! She's a bit of a party girl, she enjoys getting drunk with friends, but she's made a rule for her house-absolutely no alcohol is allowed in the doors. I am so insanely proud of her, she's been my rock through everything and now she's not only being my rock, she's quite literally experiencing everything with me... It's not easy.. but it's for the best..

deleted_user 01/08/2013

Like I said before, you have to change your whole life style. You cannot just have just ''one'' drink. It's not good for you to be out anywhere there is alcohol. When my sister was getting sober, I didn't understand why she couldn't be in a bar, or anywhere else where there was liquor served. She told me this was too much of a temptation that she is not willing to take. A.A. saved my sister's life. She has been clean and sober for 14 years! And she still attends weekly meetings. One is too many, and 12 is never enough. Go to A.A. You will find friends there who will show you that you can have fun without drinking. You have to take responsibility for your own behavior. You cannot rely on someone else for you not to drink. A.A. people know how you are feeling, and they can relate to you, they have been where you are now. Good luck. I never thought my sister would stop drinking, but, she did. And so can you.

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