Yes booze was how I coped. Take away booze and I was angry and unable to deal with even the smallest thing. It took getting into action. It took meeting with other alcoholics that had btdt.

Good luck but the only way I have ever been able to put the booze down was to deal with the underlying issues. The booze was just a symptom and when I took it away I was miserable. Until I found a program of recovery.

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Right to work only has to do with an employer not having to join a union, it has nothing to do with hiring and firing. Yes, they DO have to give him a reason as to why they fired him. They could face a lawsuit. I've read all of your posts. Have you considered that you may be codependent? Trust me. People could have been around me 24 hours a day and I would find a way. Bottles of vodka hidden, thrown out, stashed. I know I didn't appear to be drinking. This is a LOT of drama for a one year relationship. First your boss takes his keys, next you kick him out and done, next you let him back in but as long as he stays with his Mom, next you miss him and want him back with you, next he loses his job through zero fault of his own. I'm sorry. I'd look into codependency. The last man you were with was abusive and now you choose to stick with an alcoholic. It is a like playing roulette until he has solid recovery. I don't understand all the drama. Settle inside yourself. You seem young. Don't throw your life away.

Sorry, right to work only has to do with an employees right not to be forced to join a union. Really take several breaths and think. Your life matters too.

I am an alcoholic and when I was active I was an extraordinary liar. The only thing that didn't lie was my blood work. I see people posting who are struggling alcoholics or celebrating recovery. You do need a different group. I am happy to give words od wisdom and then point you in the right direction but we can't support you in the end. We have to support alcoholics. Yes we welcome you but I've seen so many posts and I think you need to find another type of support. I have compassion for you and I wish you well but you are taking up a lot of time. Just being honest.

At an early time in my sobriety, my life was totally unmanagable. I had no job, my wife wanted a divorce, I had no way to keep up the morgage and car payments, I didn't know what to do. But I stayed sober and for one simple reason.

I remember my AA sponser telling me that good things happen to those who stay sober. Little by little, money started coming in from places I would never have expected. One example is, I had an old shed I seldom used and it caved in under the weight of ise and snow one winter so I bragged to my sponser, where is the good in that? He asked if I had it insured and I told him I was sure it wasn't but he suggested I check, Come to find out, I had it insured for 3 times what it costs to build and we received the full amount! We never did rebuild and used the money to live on.

This was just one of many things that happened. It was like someone upstairs was manipulating the pieces in the puzzle of my life. Good things happen when we stay sober is something I never forgot.

So long story short, losing a job is not the end of the world and could be a blessing in disguise, ya never know! When one door closes another one opens and in many ways could be a bigger and better door! So....have Faith, stay positive, and don't judge and life will all work out for you, I promise!

God Bless!

And I don't want to be cruel. So I apologize if I have BUT he's likely young and I don't know if he's at the beginning of his career or is ready to end his career as an alcoholic. If there is no support in place aside from you then that's not enough.

I completely understand what you're saying. However, I do know for sure that he wasn't drinking. He was living with me then. And, his drink of choice is whiskey. I can smell whiskey from a mile away. I also know how he acts when he has been drinking. I stopped by many times on my way to work and he was always there, doing his job, and completely sober.

I looked up the Right To Work and I was incorrect about the term.
"If you are employed at will, your employer does not need good cause to fire you. In every state but Montana (which protects employees who have completed an initial "probationary period" from being fired without cause), employers are free to adopt at-will employment policies, and many of them have."

We have a bit of an atypical relationship. He was there for me at my darkest. He helped me find myself again. I was codependent with my ex. I made the excuses, I convinced myself that he was telling the truth when he was lying, etc. I'm not doing that now. I'm giving him a chance because he deserves one. And there is another reason for me knowing for certain that he had not been drinking due to an activity I'm not going to discuss that happened after we came back to my apartment.
And now we're watching a movie and eating brats, and there is still no alcohol to be seen.
As part of his getting sober, he's decided that he needs to go see a priest and do confession. So, that's happening. And that was completely his decision.

Thanks for sharing. Why isn't he on this board?

I'm protective of people who are dealing with alcoholics. I never had a drink in front of me. I always went to the bathroom or something, belted it back, put a little toothpaste or a cough drop etc in my mouth. Nobody knew. We will also switch alcohol of choice depending on what people detect. I was a beer and wine person until I had to hide it and then I switched to vodka. I maintained a level of alcohol where I wouldn't get plowed until after I knew I was alone. And sometimes it was just maintaining a low level buzz. Alcoholics are all different but we will find a way if we have nothing in place.

I agree Anne. I rarely drank in front of others and many i have now told were completely shocked i had such a problem. I became a very good liar.

That's the scary but true part MM. People were completely shocked. I was never the messy drunk but I was a drunk none the less. I have zero shame in naming it for what it is. I made it look pretty in hell.