Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
Good morning to ya'! Greetings from the mitten! If you're looking for alcoholics, we have our share. Something about deep woods and cold long winters creates a fertile growth medium.
Honestly I'm not sure what messed up thing i want to bring up but let me talk about my brother.
My brother has thrown himself into boozing hard core. He is now without any income for over a year. No unemployment. No food stamps as he can't renew his shit. He just lives here and magically buys liquor every day. He's been battling to save his foot, nasty wound vacuum going 24/7, legs all bandaged while dishes, legit, growing mold. He is a hot, festering alcoholic mess.
As an alcoholic who's husband is a war refugee and suffers PTSD and *wow* does he have some deep rage.. I am boxed in by mental health crises.
I have a toxic game i guess. I play saviour (like Euro savior..fancy) and flip between "I can't take his anger. Let me escape & drink with my brother."
Frankly i am stuck, like a tack in your shoe, just clicking on the floor, morse coding it out to please save me. We always want that saviour to intervene. I can't do it myself ffs!!!!
I take care of my dad, who would be completely neglected left to my brother who neglects himself. It's like a hippie commune but psychos.
My father worked in a psych ward for 30 years. It may be my family curse, surrounded by mental health issues.
I just want to be happy!!! I want my brother to turn his sorry suicide parade tf around!!
I tried turning off the tap w access to money, but he needs to eat and given the choice he will drink.
Like. I have a problem. I can't be around him and not be triggered to want booze. Looking at the extreme tragically gross state of his life you would think I would get the cautionary tale and never drink again..and yet..
This year has been rough given ..giveth just everything really. I don't know how to make him care about saving himself. I don't know how to break the narrative that i am the saviour figure and that it's my job.
Save yourself for once.
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I invited Bill to have dinner with me last Sunday. He wasn't willing to drive 7 hours to mid Michigan and teased me with his beautiful ribs!!! So, of course I ate alone and had cedar salmon
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
Hugs bill
As I have had a peak into your kind of humor, I'm guessing you've seen Very Bad Things. I had an image of you as Cameron Diaz with your brother in the backyard in the motorized wheelchair..... I know, not funny.
I think you should write a column or something... Are you familiar with Anne Lamont? she does pretty well for herself with that wit.
Hippy commune.... lmao!!!
I think it's important to recognize that you are NOT a hot mess by association. I know, believe me, that it's easy to feel this way. Resist that thinking with all you've got.
I've been listening to videos by this guy who has made things very simple for me. highly suggest.... Liberations.com, the one on psychological healing is brilliant It's a different way to look at and live life. Blew my mind actually.
The only way to really help anyone is maintaining stability for yourself.... and the only way for happiness too so there you go.
The one thing I know is that my life is better sober and living with the present moment. Whatever that moment may be....At least it's real.
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I like nutmeg in au gratin dishes and spice breads. If i make a pumpkin bread i use fresh ginger and grate a nutmeg, but dollar store cinnamon so I don't get too pretentious.