Alcoholism Support Group

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spouse of alcoholism don't know how to support him

kittydodge
kittydodge
Plz help me suggestions are welcome!
FuzzyWuzzy2
FuzzyWuzzy2
SMART Recovery has meetings for family and friends. I think the method they use is called CRAFT http://www.smartrecovery.org/resources/family.htm
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
If kids are involved, leave until he gets treatment.

Either way, you need to not enable and go to Alanon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As a recovering alcoholic I have a different perspective than when I drank. By its very nature, alcoholism causes a wide range of problems for those who love the affected individual.

Alanon can be a place of others who have been where you are. They know the hurt and frustration and angst that go with this and can share with you their experience, strength and hope.
Twoyearsclean
Twoyearsclean
It is all about consequences...they have to be severe enough to move the alcoholic toward change. If there are none, they will usually keep doing the same things.

Al-anon may have answers.
Impermanence
Impermanence
Focus on yourself and your happiness. Nothing I could say or do had any effect on my alcoholic wife's drinking problem. I learned to take care of myself rather than obsess over her problem. The only person that I could change was myself. I learned this at Al Anon meetings. Other options are a therapist, and Smart recovery.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Alanon is the place for you. You can google meeting times in your area. You will learn how others deal with addictive loved ones and how to support without enabling.

God Bless!
1is2many
1is2many
My wife never engaged me and it really would piss me off. But then again if she had I prob would have just got drunker.

My one suggestion would be to not bail out, don't do his end around the house. Make life a pain and don't give his alcoholism attention.

Best
1is2many
gr8ful2b
gr8ful2b
The worst thing you can do is support his alcoholism. I know. My husband was a non-drinker. I was totally out of control.

Like Impermanence said, the best thing you could do is find help for you at Al-Anon. There you will learn how to live rather than focus on the alcoholic. A normal person doesn't stay with a drunk. That is unhealthy.

Check out Al-Anon. Godspeed
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