If they have at least one year in the program, and are same gender - what was recommended to me.

To be honest, I have one but I never speak to her outside of meetings. But I have a group of friends who are kind of like sponsors.

What I was told to do is just sit and listen at meetings for awhile. When you see someone who shares who has things in common with you and you think they have alot of wisdom to share, then you can ask. It should always be the same sex as well. Don't feel bad if they decline. I was turned down by the first three I asked....

It took me about a month to get a sponsor. He was perfect for me. He had 5 years sobriety which is what AA recommends, he did a job similar to mine and we both were drug addicts before we became alcoholics. We spent a little time together but we spent alot of time on the phone which was especially helpful during those early days when my new sobriety was still in a fragile state. Good question!

God Bless

I would just ask a lady you have seen before and attends the same mtgs. The main thing is to do it. Just go early to the meeting. Chat enjoy meeting others. Stay late and see who’s surrounding a newcomer. Seek one that is leading a meeting. Just try someone, it may work it may not. You gotta just try and amazing things happen.

It’s like trying to lift yourself up by your belt loops. It’s impossible. We still try to do it alone but just get worn out. Ask for help, that’s the watershed moment.

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I'm really glad to hear you are getting a sponsor. Just remember that you can always change sponsors if it's not the right fit. No one with solid sobriety will take it personally, rather will simply want whats best for you. I would advise getting a sponsor that has and is currently working the steps.

I’ve been to quite a few different meetings lately. 10 in the last week. I love the different people I come across

Wait, watch and listen.

Find the one WOMAN who has what you want.

If you have kids, find a one that’s a mother. If you don’t but want them, find one who has or started a family as a recovering alcoholic.

Take your time. Don’t let anyone force their ways on you. Identify who really impresses you in meetings - someone with time, someone who has a similar story to you, someone who may be a great sponsor of others.

I wouldn’t rush, because picking the wrong one could be bad, but if you start feeling a weakness get that phone list.

In the beginning it’s good to go very early before meetings and stay late. They will appear. Connect with as many as possible. In my opinion a larger fellowship as a whole is stronger to me than my individual sponsor.

Good luck and great job. I hope you’re starting to feel alive again!