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maryann1948
maryann1948
I was thinking today. Its sad to say good bye. Oh I would like to say I am just tickled to death to be sober and never planning on drinking again. But after 30 years of drinking saying good bye for good to my alcohol buddy is a little depressing. Oh sure I feel great and I am proud that I have 6 weeks sober but I have to admit it all a little sad to think my long last companion will no longer be in my life..I begin a new chapter of my life.. and I will embrace all of it.. a new journey. I need to find me too. Many years spend with me and my buddy have come to a hult and I now go it alone.
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
Embrace it as if your life depended on :))) I'd suggest!! A grieving process pretty much seems to be the next appropriate steps in a sober life..Out with old In with the New Woot!!

Billy
marioncooper1
marioncooper1
maryann, congrats on having 6 weeks sober. At first, the thought of never drinking again was beyond my comprehension. I went thru a grieving process. However, do not dwell too long there. Get on with your journey of sobriety.

You do not need to do this alone. We are here to help you along. Hang in there.

hugs
buckstag
buckstag
Grieving that you got alcohol out of your life? Wow! I can only celebrate!

Alcohol was never my buddy. My crutch maybe, but never my buddy.
1is2many
1is2many
This is a very normal feeling for somebody at 6 weeks. I applaud your time so far and want you to know that life gets better each day sober.

I needed to smash the thought of a drink. SMASH it.

I see it as rat poison.

It was killing me.

1is2many
gr8ful2b
gr8ful2b
Hi maryann. I remember when I was about 6 weeks dry, I went down the freeway, listening to Michael Bolton sing "How Am I Supposed To Live Without You", crying my eyes out. It wasn't until a wise friend told me about the grieving process involved in giving up what had started as my everything but ended up trying to take everything away from me, especially ME, that I understood.

Many miraculous things began to happen for me after that. Stay the course. You ain't seen nothing yet! Hugs, Dianna
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I think we tend to miss the things we are use to, even if they are destructive. Quitting incurs fear. Fear of the unknown even when we know that quitting will be better for us in the future, it's still scary because we don't know exactly what to expect.

Good luck on your road to recovery and may your Higher Power walk with you and guide you along the way!

God Bless!
Koyu
Koyu
Congratulations on 6 weeks of sobriety.

I know the feeling. It is scary and it is hard to accept that alcohol who used to be your friend is now hurting you.

Remember that you are not alone. This group is a kind group.

Hugs.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Celebrate! You should be so proud. I remember when I stopped smoking! I knew I couldn't just have one once in a while - I had to stop cold turkey and I did. It was easier than I thought - only once in a great while do I think about one.

So happy for you - take good care.
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
I totally get it. A whole part of you changes, and it can feel like a death sometimes.

I'd try having a funeral and writing a litter to your "pal," saying goodbye. State what you are going to miss, and wishing it well without it being in your life any more.

The only way to get over something is to acknowledge it, and it took a lot of courage for you to admit this.

Good for you.
buckstag
buckstag
Yes Mary Ann, I would like to see that letter to your "pal" and hear what "you are going to miss". Alcohol was no pal of mine and I can't think of one thing I miss about being addicted to it. I don't even miss that feeling of being drunk now that I better understand it. Losing control to an unnatural substance that I introduce into my body does not seem like pleasure anymore. In fact it scares me more than entices me.
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
Here is link that explains much .....Anger is only directed at something like a grudge or a resentment it only festers or feels like a raw nerve. Whereas sadness can create a space to see:))

http://www.alcoholaddict.info/alcohol-addiction/grief-loss-and-alcohol-drinking.html

Billy
Community LeaderExJerseyGirl2
ExJerseyGirl2
Congrats on six weeks!

I try not to personify alchol -- it is a beverage that I was drinking to excess and in the process destroying my life and my body. It is not my buddy and neverr has been.

That said, I can understand how you feel -- when we spend so much time doing something, no matter how bad it is for us, it can leave an emptiness when we stop.

I hope you can say your farewell, kicking that bum of a "friend" to the curb forever.

(((hugs)))
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