Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
But last time I had a 'sociable' drink I ended up drinking every day again for a couple of weeks. Not getting blasted, because I can't not because I don't want to.
So, yeah, I admit I am powerless over alcohol and my life is unmanageable. Without doubt. Have a done stage one yet?
It is never the second or third or seventh drink that gets me drunk. Its always the first, cuz I never know when I will stop.
The solution to that for me is to be restored to sanity. I am no longer battling with the obsession to drink as the problem has been removed.
Understanding that I am the one who has to make that choice has made it easier to me. My addiction (or disease, whatever you want to call it) is not more powerful than me or my decision to not drink.
My disease (or addiction) tries to convince my mind that it is okay to drink, at first by sounding like a petulant child ("everyone else gets to drink, it isn't fair") then moving to more subtle forms of persuasion ("a sip of wine won't hurt. What's the big deal?")
But even though I sometimes hear that voice of the addiction, I am going to try to see it for what it is, push it aside and move on.
When i decided to quit, it was from a place very deep inside, and it was a decision i made with a conviction that is stronger than a thousand different internal voices of doubt.
I suppose that if I were to try to explain where the foundation of this decision and my conviction comes from I would have to mention the spiritual aspect of my being. In that way maybe some of you would think that I have turned it over to a "higher power." I just like to remind myself that it is in MY control, and I am the one responsible and with the power of choice.
Admitting that you are "powerless" does not detract from your own personal responsibility. It's simply gaining an understanding of the rules of the game.....once you understand the rules, you can beat this thing.
I'm a big believer in personal responsibility and "the buck stops with me". But I allowed alcohol to gain a grip on my life. It got to the point where I would often obsess over alcohol even when I wasn't drinking. Understanding powerlessness is a matter of understanding the cycle that can trap us. At least that's my view!
When I was drinking I had no access to a solution and could not avoid picking up the first drink using my own power.
Ironically admitting my powerlessness over alcohol has been the most empowering thing I have ever done.