I found this description, It's a little dated,but seems to be closely related to my experience. Low self esteem , a defeatist attitude all being shaped by past experiences. Trauma's, or just trying to recapture a time when all seemed well. Also a sense of not fitting in, which i remedied by just being as others wanted me to be, changing to accommodate, different people I was exposed too (chameleon). And if that did not work , a fuck it , I don't care , what's the point anyway attitude (defeatist)
But just like Coogee said , through step work and for me some outside help I found what shaped my attitudes and became willing to take steps to help remedy its glaring effects.... The first being. not drinking, because drinking , always exaggerated My glaring personalty traits and made me want to drink more To numb the pain and sense of inferiority
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YVFku0P7qTA

Personality is based on the individual's distinct and consistent outlooks and actions or overall style of behavior. Inherited or biological traits are not personality traits except inasmuch as they influence behavior. For example, if level of energy is an inherited trait, a person could be predisposed to having a highly energized and active personality or a passive and "laid back" one. Even so, many aspects of the person's personality would remain to be filled out by the person's life experiences, particularly within the family. Obviously, many other biological traits such as height are not part of personality, although they may influence it. Some other examples and counter-examples of personality traits: achievement orientation is a personality trait while intelligence is not; a bright or optimistic outlook (or a negative, pessimistic one) is a personality characteristic while a set of political beliefs is not.

http://www.peele.net/lib/personality.html

Sure, most alcoholics have personality problems. So does pretty much everybody.

The trick is not to let your "problem" be an excuse for your behavior, including drinking.

Yes, but you see Being Alcoholic may not make us any different from others but the trick is to not Drink and try to address these things ,excuse is such a easy word for a non- Alcoholic to use in Describing a Alcoholic ...
Billy

Yeah, for Compost. My nose is too big so I drink. I lost my job so I drink. My mother didn't like me so I drink. on and on. The reason we drink is because we like it. Our brains are wired to keep doing what is pleasurable. It's all chemistry and neurons folks.

I agree with compost. (she makes things grow..hee hee..)

I think most everyone has personality problems, the difference is me, being the drunk, drank to cover, enhance etc my personality problems, whereas the normies recognize emotions as regular human emotions and let it ride.

So your personality problem is due to chemistry, amish? Whatever. You still have to deal with it.

You have to break the cycle when you quit drinking. Replace the alcohol with the raw ingredients that is lack in your physical make up. Just talking about it via AA only works at best 6% of the time.

Yeah like in hooray for you Compost.

I do not wish to get into anything with amish but would like to say something regarding the "only works at best 6%" of the time and the comment on "just talking about it at aa meetings".

1st of all-AA is much more than meetings, meetings did not get me sober and I am not sober today because of meetings.

It's not "talking about it at aa meetings" that is the solution. Letting go of old crap and learning how to keep from adding new crap through the 12 step work with my sponsor is what has helped me.

2nd-as far as the "6%" recovery rate goes, I've said it before and I'll say it again. I have no idea where these numbers come from because I think it's impossible to calculate.

I have been in aa for over a year and no one has ever asked me to "sign in" in order to be counted and no one has ever called or come to my door to ask me if I am in aa and if I am sober.

So I can only imagine that if I have not been included in these statistics, I can't be the only one who hasn't been "counted".

Ha!!! But i am....Now...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0waNRaz6wU

Holy, I've stated many times here that AA has made the best and most lasting contribution to alcoholism and have saved countless people. I loved going to AA meetings. But for me all the talk and no cure was just sad. After all a disease with no cure leaves no hope in your life. Why let alcoholism run your life until you die? When you are cured it is over.

Kinda like formaldehyde hah!!! cured preserved....

Make fun all you want Oki. Cured is cured. If an Obese person weighed in at 400 lbs., went down to 140 lbs. can you / would it be fair, to still call them fat of obese?

Fun!!! so embalming fluid constitutes death doesn't it?

Amish, I just wanted to comment on where you mention a disease without cure has no Hope in life. I disagree. Gratefully in remission at the moment from colon cancer, I've spent a lot of time with chemo-sabies who are in their last stage of the disease. Recently a mate of ours here at DS, Kadija passed away and she had and gave Hope to others here right up until she went back to hospital.

Hope is very much alive in these people who are dying. Hope not just that their lives will be spared, but for their families and loved ones around them, and those also suffering. It was the Chemo-kids in their last stages that gave me Hope and inspiration to keep going. They have Hope not just for their days left here, but for what they believe lay ahead of them. Sorry, this one was close to home.