Until he is ready to commit to sobriety once & for all, this will be your life - maybe you could try living apart for at least 6 months & put yourself first, otherwise you will be writing the same post in another year.

It's like my counselor told me when I was in outpatient treatment nearly 14 years ago, "We can throw everything at you but the kitchen sink, the rest is up to you!"

I had to be highly motivated to do everything it took to stay sober because I had lost my job, my marriage, and had financial problems among other things. I was as low as I could go so I was very motivated and I used the tools I was taught to help me stay sober. It was not easy, at all, but the harder I worked on myself, the better my life got.

I went to AA meetings, got a sponsor who spoke to me daily which helped me the most during those first few months when my sobriety was still in a fragile state. Without him, I probably wouldn't have made it.

Sometimes it takes more then one trip through rehab. The nurse in detox once told me after I asked her how business was and she said, it's a revolving door.....It was after my second stay in detox that became my last stay. I told them that as much as I liked them, they would never see me again and so far, fingers crossed, I have been able to keep that promise!

I don't want to give advice but my suggestion is to take care of yourself, first and foremost.

God Bless

Thankyou

“Before you heal someone, ask him if he’s willing to give up the things that make him sick.” Hippocrates

Please take care of yourself.

I can’t imagine living with an alcoholic. I was one and I didn’t like living with myself…. Very lonely.
Definitely take care of yourself. Seeing you doing your best to live a healthy lifestyle is a good way to help him and to be able to better handle whatever may come.