Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
JustASimpleGuy
...was admitted to the hospital last week. She's a long-term, hard-core alcoholic. She survived a double aneurysm in 2006, and all things considered had a miraculous recovery. After weeks in the ICU, more weeks in recovery and a month in a rehab facility she recovered close to 90% neuroligically and the only noticeable lasting impact was a slower gait and slight balance issues.
Sadly she went right back to heavy drinking. Vodka was her drink and lots of it from when she got up in the morning to when she fell off to sleep on the couch. She also neglected proper nutrition. I doubt if on average she consumed more than 500 calories a day from solid food.
The doctor was leaning toward a diagnosis of WernickeKorsakoff syndrome. It's a severe B1 deficiency and results in damage to specific areas of the brain.
Well, she took a turn for the worse last night. Cardiac arrest. She's now in ICU on a ventilator, her kidneys aren't funtioning and her blood pressure is extremely low, requiring a transfusion and meds to boost the BP. She's also unaware and incoherent.
Not sure if she's in a coma. The doctor wants to do some additional assessments, however it doesn't look good. She was hinting a decision might need to be made soon, and I asked if she was talking about a DNR. She acknowledged she was.
The sad thing is this was preventable. She'd been sliding down the past several months. First numbness in one arm, tingling in her limbs, lethargy, weakness, etc... She refused to go to the doctor. Her boyfriend, who's also a hard-core alcoholic was also in denial and didn't think it was critical enough to force the issue.
If WernickeKorsakoff syndrome is caught early enough, it's treatable with vitamin B1 therapy. Depending how far it's advanced some or most of the symptoms can be reversed or at least mitigated. Others like memory loss & function can't, but can at least be arrested and stabilized.
The thing is the disease (alcoholism) prevented both of them from grasping the seriousness of the situation and dealing with it in a pro-active manner.
None of this is a shock to me. They are both adults (she's 52, he's 60) and over the years I tried to reason with them to moderate and at least eat well. I pushed her harder way, way back, but as you probably know that turned out to be very counter-productive. She's been in rehab twice, once under a court order.
Frankly I don't think her boyfriend is far behind her. The first thing he does after waking up is grab a beer from the fridge and that continues all day until he falls asleep in the recliner. He's definitely malnourished too, his legs have been swelling and turning yellowish and he has very little strength in them. He also has sever lung dysfunction and any little bump on his body produces nasty blood blotches from ruptured capillaries.
I don't mean to lecture anyone here. I really don't. My sister and her boyfriend might be extreme examples. However I see how horribly this has destroyed their lives and quite frankly caused pain to those who care for them.
Regardless I love them both and it saddens me they have spent the last 5 or 6 years sitting in their livingroom pretty much 24x7 drinking and watching TV. Alcoholism, especially to this degree, is a merciless thief of all life has to offer.
If this post gives only one person that little extra bit of incentive to attain sobriety or stay sober, that would be a great thing.
Best wishes to everyone who is battling this disease.
Sadly she went right back to heavy drinking. Vodka was her drink and lots of it from when she got up in the morning to when she fell off to sleep on the couch. She also neglected proper nutrition. I doubt if on average she consumed more than 500 calories a day from solid food.
The doctor was leaning toward a diagnosis of WernickeKorsakoff syndrome. It's a severe B1 deficiency and results in damage to specific areas of the brain.
Well, she took a turn for the worse last night. Cardiac arrest. She's now in ICU on a ventilator, her kidneys aren't funtioning and her blood pressure is extremely low, requiring a transfusion and meds to boost the BP. She's also unaware and incoherent.
Not sure if she's in a coma. The doctor wants to do some additional assessments, however it doesn't look good. She was hinting a decision might need to be made soon, and I asked if she was talking about a DNR. She acknowledged she was.
The sad thing is this was preventable. She'd been sliding down the past several months. First numbness in one arm, tingling in her limbs, lethargy, weakness, etc... She refused to go to the doctor. Her boyfriend, who's also a hard-core alcoholic was also in denial and didn't think it was critical enough to force the issue.
If WernickeKorsakoff syndrome is caught early enough, it's treatable with vitamin B1 therapy. Depending how far it's advanced some or most of the symptoms can be reversed or at least mitigated. Others like memory loss & function can't, but can at least be arrested and stabilized.
The thing is the disease (alcoholism) prevented both of them from grasping the seriousness of the situation and dealing with it in a pro-active manner.
None of this is a shock to me. They are both adults (she's 52, he's 60) and over the years I tried to reason with them to moderate and at least eat well. I pushed her harder way, way back, but as you probably know that turned out to be very counter-productive. She's been in rehab twice, once under a court order.
Frankly I don't think her boyfriend is far behind her. The first thing he does after waking up is grab a beer from the fridge and that continues all day until he falls asleep in the recliner. He's definitely malnourished too, his legs have been swelling and turning yellowish and he has very little strength in them. He also has sever lung dysfunction and any little bump on his body produces nasty blood blotches from ruptured capillaries.
I don't mean to lecture anyone here. I really don't. My sister and her boyfriend might be extreme examples. However I see how horribly this has destroyed their lives and quite frankly caused pain to those who care for them.
Regardless I love them both and it saddens me they have spent the last 5 or 6 years sitting in their livingroom pretty much 24x7 drinking and watching TV. Alcoholism, especially to this degree, is a merciless thief of all life has to offer.
If this post gives only one person that little extra bit of incentive to attain sobriety or stay sober, that would be a great thing.
Best wishes to everyone who is battling this disease.
After she went into cardiac arrest Friday night and they revived her, I spoke with her doctor. She advised me it was not good and I should consider the options. We decided initially on a DNR order and also active care, as her boyfriend is also a hard-core alcoholic, has huge health issues, lives 30 miles from the hospital and I was working with some of his friends to get him there for a last visit. He had been there several times in the 5 or so days before the arrest while she was still conscious, along with friends and several of my cousins living in the area.
He visited again yesterday and now it's comfort care. By the way, she won't be waking up no matter what transpires around her. Her brain is far too atropied and damaged from alcoholism, malnutrition & severe B1 deficiency and to top it all off the cardiac arrest.
The attending ICU physician couldn't say for sure, but she didn't think it would take all that long, however one can never to all too sure.
Thank you for allowing me to share this story and for your participation, comments and observations. Perhaps this cautionary tale might strike a chord with someone and some good might come of it.
I wish everyone here the best in your lives and pray you find the strength and spiritual guidance each and every day to overcome the siren's song of this insidious disease.
Peace.
My prayers are with you, just one human being to another.
I wanted to thank you for your consideration, generosity and open heart in sharing your story with us. I for one have learned to see that pain and heartache and loss can be dealt with in grace, dignity and serenity. It certainly is a reminder that this disease does kill. We speak about it all the time, but to bear witness to it, even via your journaling of this, is a stark snapshot of where it brings us.
Thank you and my prayers are with you and the family. I hope that her partner does well.
Paul
Paul, thanks for your kind words. I absolutely do understand your mixed emotions.
Here's a little something I came across in the last several years. It's very powerful and I really like its message:
An old Cherokee told his grandson, My Son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth.
The boy thought about it, and asked, Grandfather, which wolf wins?
The old man quietly replied, The one you feed".
Not just for her passing, but for the loss of who she might have been. Who she was before she extinguished her light with years of drinking.
Prayers for you and her SO. Thank you for sharing her story.
For all her faults, in one respect she was just like mom. Never, ever had a bad thing to say about anyone.