Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
i really am having a lull. I want to drink but I know that I will be back to daily drinking and don't want that. But I want some fun. Life has become like groundhogs day. Wake up, go to work, go to a meeting, go home, eat dinner, go to bed. I am somewhat disenchanted with life right now. I want to have that feeling of no worries again.
Fk. I guess I will go to bed early ( again ) and try to make tommorow better
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I invited Bill to have dinner with me last Sunday. He wasn't willing to drive 7 hours to mid Michigan and teased me with his beautiful ribs!!! So, of course I ate alone and had cedar salmon
The one thing I know is that in the beginning, you need to really work at getting motivated and doing things, even when you don't feel like it. It's way too easy, and dangerous to just sit back and get into that pity party. This weekend I got caught up in that, and it was awfull. Normally I don't think of drinking much because, for me, it's just not an option. I know I'll die if I go out. It's too hard trying to get back in recovery, and from my last time...That really scared me. I don't think I'de get back.
I have to force myself sometimes to do the things that will help to change my life for the better. I try to plan out my day the night before. At meetings, I need to push myself harder to get involved. I've noticed that I'm just being AROUND A.A. I'm not really in it. I've always been someone that keeps a distance. It's a way of avoiding responsibility.
Try giving yourself just a couple of goals with recovery. Help set up at the meeting, put the chairs away, talk with someone. Just make them simple goals and then force yourself to do them
Also, try a little jogging or some other exercise. Maybe 3 times a week for an hour. I find exercise in any form is a great stress reliever, also helps keep you calm, and you sleep better. Ask other people at meetings what they do.
Whatever you do, just do something other than sitting and thinking, " Is this all there is." That kind of thinking isn't too good.
Anyhow, you're just experiencing what we all go through in early recovery. After using alcohol to bypass everything never had to really think too long about what to do. The answer for me was have a beer. Then who knows. Anyway, hang in there. Your answers will come. All the best, James
just me and my $0.02
STOP for a moment and think. Maybe you are not where you would like to be but if you embark on the downward journey, it can take you a long way down, with no guarantee that you can come back. I met a man last night who is just back to AA meetings, having relapsed after many years of sobriety and it is not a nice experience.
In some ways, we live in the worst of times, with so many potential flashpoints around the world, but we also live in the best of times. In former days, life was fairly limited in so far as the lucky few who could afford it got a college education and only those who were well off financially could travel to far-off places. The internet has changed all of that, and today the world really is your oyster.
Like alcoholism, boredom is a sign of some background problem or some aspect of life that is out of balance. Personally, I limit the number of AA meetings to about two per week, and I go there, not because I need meetings but because I want to be there. More important I think is to work one to one with other alcoholics, either through sponsorship or on an informal basis. In that way, I have gained a huge amount and so many opportunities have opened up. You have been around for a while now and you have much to offer to alcoholics who are struggling so why not get out there and carry the message.
During the D-Day landings on 6th June 1944, the Allied troops went through hell in order to secure a beachhead on the coast of Normandy, and from there they branched out to conquer Europe. You too have secured your beachhead, so now it is time to move out and push on to explore life.
Where boredom is concerned, the guy at the link below makes some great suggestions, entitled “Eliminate Boredom With These 12 Tips”. It is of course up to each individual to follow or reject those proposals. The default setting for many of us is to do nothing and take pleasure from our supposed ‘misfortune’ rather than count our blessings.
https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/05/29/eliminate-boredom-with-these-12-tips/
I read your posts and replies and they are most certainly positive and focused so this isn't the 1is2many that we all recognise
so I'm concerned and listening!!
I've always loved exercise and even when I was drinking I still performed my classes...... I gave up teaching classes in October after 20 years of most evenings and weekends being dedicated to it. It was my time, my little haven where I could go and "act" regardless of how I was feeling physically or emotionally - I turned up with a smile on my face - for that hour or two hours I wasn't the professional that I had to be in the day job, I wasn't wife and when my daughter came along 12 years ago I wasn't mum!! I was just me.
Since giving up teaching I have managed to get to the gym a couple of times a week (even if only for a quick run) but more recently the "day job" has gotten very busy and with care responsibilities I've been too tired to go to the gym for "me time" and had two relapses in the same period! I'm not saying they are connected but ME time is essential for all of us...... I've learned that the hard way by sabotaging my recovery.
It's easy to say but it may help you to find a hobby of some sort. Art, crafts, reading, online CBT self help courses, running anything at all to help you and stop the boredom.
I hope you soon feel more like the 1 is2many that we "know" and be certain your friends here are ready to listen and support.
God bless T x
God Bless
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As a pet owner myself, my heart goes out to you. The hardest part of owning one, is having to say goodby! When I had to have mine euthanized, I cried.....felt like I was losing a part of me. It's not easy but I really believe they never leave, their spirits are always with us. On the evening we had our last one put down, my wife and I were laying in bed and we could hear her walking on the kitchen floor! From that point on, I stopped believing that life begins at birth and ends at death.
After awhile, we bought another dog who coincidently was born on the exact same day that my previous dog past on.....and I don't believe in coincidences!
God Bless
I hope you find peace.
Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do.
BB page 132
If newcomers could see no joy or fun in our existence, they wouldn't want it. We absolutely insist on enjoying life.
There are several passages in the Big Book about living a sober life, none of which suggests a life of work, eat, meeting, sleep, lather, rinse, repeat. If fact, the founders of AA are quite emphatic that as sober alcoholics, we are called to become "happily and usefully whole". It is ok to have fun and enjoy life. Doing such is not detrimental to one's sobriety.
Rather than committing oneself to a life of endless meetings, perhaps it is more beneficial to commit oneself to a live of living.
We are not a glum lot. BB pg 132
If I've learned nothing else, isolation is not good for anyone. I can't say I've solved my "fun" challenge. I have been looking at MeetUps