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It takes years sometimes

octoberrust
octoberrust

Admitting you are wrong is hard. But sometimes it takes years for you to realize it. I left at home when I was 17. Two weeks after my dad hit me. I went through both of my parents addictions and did my best to handle it as any kid could. I have a younger sister, shes 10 years younger than me. I know she never forgave me for leaving her there. But at 17, you're just a kid too. I did all I could to shield her. But I had to leave. I guess right now, I'm looking back at how everything happened. My sons dads family took me in. His mom become my mom in a way. She was able to be that support for me that my mom was never able to be. My mom had me at 16 and her family was not there for her. I understand it better now, in ways I could never understand until I became a mother myself. Over the years I've made so many mistakes and I wake up everyday doing the best I can for me and my son. His dad passed away in 2011. I've struggled with my own addictions, regardless of why I came to that point, I feel like I have such a different understanding now of my relationship with my mom. I understand why she has said and done the things she has. At this point, I'm trying to figure out how to say that to her, or if I should talk to her about it at all. She is in full blown active addiction and that won't change. As much as I'd like to, I am pretty sure I can't. So I guess right now, I'm trying to make peace with that the best I can. 

Kevin105
Kevin105
Welcome to our community. In reading your post, I can see a person who has endured a lot of suffering in her life, but also has a good understanding of where she is today. Yes, the people we love often hurt us the most, I endured that as well. But ultimately it's what we do with that knowledge and how we resolve the pain, that will determine how we shape our future. Sounds like you're coming to terms with that now and I see a person who's headed in the right direction! Most of us on this site drifted into some kind of addiction to numb unresolved pain, but through healing and forgiveness, enjoy new lives today. Wishing you the same and please stay in touch!
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
As a child growing up in an alcoholic home, I use to try everything to get my parents to stop their drinking but nothing worked. Eventually both of them died from their disease. My mother passed at the age of 52 from sirosis and my dad's death was indirectly related to brain damage caused by many years of binge drinking. When you are a child, it is extremely difficult to watch a loved one commit a slow suicide with the bottle, knowing there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop the madness....

Many years later, all that guilt I had inside me, triggered my own addiction to drugs and then to alcohol and I nearly died from an accidental overdose of narcotic pain killers. They call it accidental but what it means is that my tolarance was so high that I was basicly taking them by the handful just to get my fix.

It took going through an IOP, 3 months of counseling and the 12 steps of AA, to get me where I am today. I am happier then I have ever been. I forgave my parents, and I forgave myself and it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders.

The best thing you can do for mom is to give her your love. We all make mistakes so I found it best to forgive and let go of the past....It's done.

God Bless
octoberrust
octoberrust
Thanks for the support. I am going to be starting counseling again soon. I think that no matter how hard I tried in the past I wasn't able to find the strength, courage or forgiveness to move on from it. I wasn't ready. Now, I feel like I'm ready to do that. So hoping I can do that with the right help. Thank you for helping me do that! I am so grateful there is a place like this online!
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
My moms addictions destroyed her. So much harder on daughters. My sister struggles with alot. Don’t forget to forgive yourself too. When we do that, moving forward gets easier. Counseling is a great step. Look deeply and don’t be afraid. It will be ok when you allow it to be.
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