Hey Rich! Welcome back:)

I'm on day 11 today. If I can do it, ANYONE can....lol.

Glad to see you around again.

HUGS
Jen

Good hearing from you my friend. The Holidays are tough for all of us and this is the perfect time to start again and get a few months sobriety under your belt before they come around again.

You're right, it's easy to say you're going to quit when you're hungover. I did it a thousand times lying in my bed the morning after a night out drinking and struggling to get out of bed. But I think you really want to this time. Not just for your wife, who understandably is upset and wants the guy she fell in love with and married, but for yourself. I think you want to be in control of your life, and mindful of those who care for you. I also believe you want to be able to live up to your life's potential, whatever that might be, and realize that alcohol has no concern for you or your personal aspirations.

Do me a favor. Print and cut out your post from this morning and put it in your wallet Read it whenever you're tempted to drink again. Remind yourself of what you felt like the morning of January 16th 2016 and how if affected your loved ones. If you feel like you can't do this alone, get some help. Everyone has an opinion on AA, but they do have structure and a proven formula. You might need this of similar resource if your willpower alone doesn't work. You alone will have to decide.

We're here for you Rich and please keep us posted of how you're doing.

Robert

Rich,

I badly want to help you, seeing your struggle these last many months.

But the truth is that we can't help you get back on track.

I've sadly watched you struggle, insisting that painting and jobs around the house will keep you occupied not to drink.

You need a program, that not only eliminates the desire to drink, but the tools to make you a better person.

You have to want to stop and you have to do it for yourself.

You also have to realize that it's highly unlikely that you can ever drink like a normal human being again.

Hard stuff to admit and like you said, it's a lot easier when you're hungover and the wife is angry with you.

Thank you all for your words of support.

I will check in regularly including from my phone when I'm out so I keep my support group near!

Rich

In all honesty, nobody can help you but you! we can tell you what worked for us but you have probably already read our stories.

You know....your wife is upset with you because she knows she stands a good chance of becoming your widow! She is in alot of emotional pain. I am not blaming you but suggesting you use this as motivation to do everything possible to stay sober. An outpatient treatment program and AA worked for me.

I will keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers!

God Bless!

i will tell you this, though, you have helped me no want a drink today. I don't miss all the guilt and remorse. I would have to drink more to forget all the heartache and it was just a cycle of drink, try to quit, feel better, and then drink again.

Break the cycle !

Nothing changes if nothing changes

1is2many

May your path be forever forward.

Day 2 for me.

We are here for you and there is plenty of room on the wagon. It can be a bumpy ride at first so it takes work to stay on.

Just keep coming back Rich! We are always here as your support and friend. You can do it :) One day at a time.

Hi Rich -- I'm here for you brother. While I haven't had a drink since Sept 28th, I lost my sobriety on Dec 18-23 when I thought it would be a great idea to snort some of my daughter's old ADD meds that were still lying around. That was certainly the "addict" in me trying to still get out somehow. So, I reset my sobriety date on Christmas Eve. See what you can do differently this time around. If it is going to meetings and starting a program, then that is worth at least trying. Momentum breeds momentum brother. Let's walk together back into the light. Hugs, PG