Thought i'd share a moment last week that left an impression. My partner and I were watching a movie; Uncle Frank, which was worth watching. He's a recovering alchoholic with some past trauma that surfaces and he slips. His kind partner tells him "I won't go through this again'. Right then my partner turns to me and says the same thing. I said; good for you. There was no old me defensive reflex. Just relaxed acceptance and gratitude that I put that life in the past and know without a doubt that I'm free of those self destructive behaviors. But mostly what hit me was that in these sober years she's gotten to know who I truly am and that's who she wants to be around. Healing myself healed her too because now she's strong enough in herself to recognize that she doesn't have to put up with any shit. It's really amazing how comprehensive the solidness of sobriety is.