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xmarkyx
xmarkyx
hi all not sure where to start im married and my wife has dropped the bombshell that she wants to call it a day we have a 9 month old son who i love to bits, we have been like this a few weeks now but tonight i was told and she has been to solicitors and sorted out some legal stuff my head is up my arse and my heart feels its been ripped out to be honest i dont love her its the insecurity im frightened of you know like im not knowing how its all gonna go etc ill lose the home everything i even felt so close to a drink but my HP stopped me and i know i did the right thing i picked the phone up i spoke to a dear friend tonight who really helped i then spoke to my sponsor as i dont really see him but he said tonight we will start to meet up more so that pleased me sorry if this is bit muddled my head is so confused but im sober this is so hard ive never dealt with anything like this especially sober in the past id drink and think sod it but now i have to deal with it sober but as my sponsor said i have a lot of good friends and genuine ones not drinking partners i just wanna scream
AnneL
AnneL
You're doing all the right things in terms of getting good support in place for yourself. If you don't already have a counselor maybe now would be a good time to start with one. I don't know if divorce is more straightforward in the UK as it is in the states. It can be extremely stressful even if you know it's over. Just surround yourself with good people and a good solicitor. Lots and lots of support. I'm here if you ever need to talk. Best to you
AnneL
AnneL
Also, I don't know if they have mediation in the UK but that's another path you could take to keep things more civil. Definitely try to eat something even a protein drink or a what Serenity suggested. Keep your strength and nutrition up as best you can. When we don't get good nutrition it makes everything worse.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is a big toughie Mark, stay close to your loving friends. You will deal with it, and maybe you will be surprised at how you do it.
A day at a time is not only the drinking, it is life and if you do the right things, the right things happen. Dont know if you like bananas but that is what I eat when I am in state. Hugs from the heart
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have such compassion for you and what you're going through. You must be feeling a whole bunch of things such as grief, anger, remorse, shame, guilt, love, fear, etc. It's only natural that the thought might pop into your head that maybe a drink would help. Well, follow that thought through to its logical conclusion. Know that without sobriety, you can't be the dad you want to be. You also can't be the man you want to be.

Your life isn't over. It's just a new beginning. You can rebuild and have a life worth living, where you can be happy and content. Your children will still be in your life. The greatest gift you can continue to give them is a sober dad.

Stay close to your sponsor and friends as you embark on this journey. Lean on your HP. You might not get what you want, but you will get what you need, including the strength to deal with what is coming. Remember, it won't be all bad. Stay in today and work your program one day at at time. You will get through this and come out the other side. You're not alone. Good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry to hear you're havin a rough time Marky. You said yourself that you didn't love her, so maybe this will turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Be good to yourself my friend. Love ya!