I can easily see what your triggers are. You have a nitpicking, controlling husband!

You don't have to live in a toxic environment like that and neither does your son!

I will pray that your Higher Power gives you the strength to make some tough decisions down the road. I think you already know what they are and you will need alot of support. Alanon is a great place to find that support. You can google meetings in your area.

Stop being your husbands doormat!

God Bless!

Good for you for not drinking!

Is is a shame that your husband is pushing your son to excessive drinking. He should be his father, not his drinking buddy. This is not a good environment for him. You might want to have a talk with your son about it. I doubt you will get through to your husband.

An Al anon support either online or face to face may be helpful.

Congratulations for not drinking! Please give yourself a big hug.

Shame on your husband.

Misery loves company

Misery loves company---yes!
I take full responsibility for my addiction, but there were some catalytic measures to it excelling at the rate it did (also my doing). I spent two year in a toxic relationship with a man who REFUSED to drink alone. If I ordered a coke or a fizzy water, he would literally laugh at me and then order me a gin and tonic.
I agree---a blessing your son is getting out of that environment, and I am proud of you for sticking to your guns.

I am happy you spent some time with your son! Sorry to hear about your hubs though. I can surely relate to this post. I feel my hubs uses my addiction to alcohol for some twisted self satisfaction. He feels if I drink, he has every excuse in the book to call me names, treat me terribly, and abuse pot. Classic battered wife's syndrome. The more I sober up and gain independence, the more fearful he becomes. He wants control. All. Of. The. Time.

That's why I protect myself right now with anonymity. I never know what my future holds.

I know this is cliche, but he has changed in a positive way greatly since we were married in 1996.

Sorry, I was blabbing. I am not saying your situation is the same at all. I just wanted to share. I just want you to know that you are not alone and I understand how you must feel when he offers you booze and wants you to get drunk with him!

Let's be strong women and say NO MORE together. Ooorah!

I would have a conversation about alcohol abuse maybe with your son too. I think we don't give kids enough credit these days. I think they can see the danger.

I spent the day with my son. I spoke with him a little about this. He is an old soul. He does understand a lot. I think the stronger he sees me on each visit the better off we will all be. I will eventually put my foot down with my husband & his need for a drinking buddy too. I just need some more time under my belt. Otherwise he will just throw my own bad behavior in my face. I always loved the quote " Be the change you want to see in the world" . It is true a trigger for me is petty bickering. Not wanting to start anything. Thanks for all the feedback.

alot of enablers sorry that is hard but go to a meeting and do some detachment you can do it proud of you for your progress