are we talking about someone else or yourself? or both?

I would suggest to bring this up with a trusted person. counselor or sponsor. the thing is to basically decide that by holding on to the anger it is bad for you. Try to not focus on it (obsess) on it. the more you can decide to focus on other things the less you focus on the bad. Make a list of the things that are good in your life. do you have a bed? food in the fridge?

Also the more I can help another the less I obsess / think about myself. Try to volunteer. give something to someone less fortunate. heck hold a door open/ smile at the next person you meet.

Keep the focus toward other things and the bad things will tend to fade to be smaller and smaller and you can enjoy life. Thats the goal is to be happy it is possible

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I think many people have difficulty it. When trauma is recalled, and the projector is going in our minds, we are going through the same physical, and/or emotional pain all over again. By practicing forgiveness, we are saying that we are no longer giving it the power to hurt us anymore.

Letting go of the anger is a gift to ourselves. I think you have to be ready to forgive and if you are not then at least leave the door open for that to happen at some point, in the future.. Don't feel forced.

God Bless

After my yoga class and we are resting in quiet the instructor suggests that we let go of something that isn’t serving us anymore. I really like that because it helps me feel that I can release negative energy and replace it with goodness. And if you really look at it, what in our past is serving us? So why keep it around? It’s our ego

I’ve found the hooks of guilt are deeply ensnared and not easily removed. Forgiving myself the pain that I’ve caused my daughter was the most difficult, but as we move forward in our relationship and she begins to trust me and open up, I find that guilt slipping away, opening the doors to forgiving myself more each day. Acts of love and caring seem to be the key to my forgiving experience.