Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
J came over last night for a short while. He was completely sober. We spent some time cuddling and talking - basically just enjoying each other's company. I never feel better than when I'm laying next to him with my head on his chest and his arms around me. I think that's why this semi-separation is so hard. I'm happier when I'm with him. Even when he drinks, because he never gets mean or angry or abusive at all. He's always sweet and loving - whether sober or drunk. I miss him being here. My apartment just feels so lonely now. It didn't before he moved in with me, but now it does. I'm meeting him when he takes his lunch break from work later. In a way, it almost feels like the beginning of a brand new relationship. I have nervous butterflies but I'm also feeling really happy. I believe in him.
Are there different levels of alcoholism? I know some people have trouble staying sober for even a few days. J can stay sober for a few weeks at a time - usually when he has his daughter. Over the summer, he had her for a month straight and he didn't touch a drop. In fact, Tuesday was the first time I have ever known him to drink when he had her. I asked him why he did and he said, "No reason I could come up with would be satisfactory. I don't even know." I'm just trying to understand what he's going through.
Are there different levels of alcoholism? I know some people have trouble staying sober for even a few days. J can stay sober for a few weeks at a time - usually when he has his daughter. Over the summer, he had her for a month straight and he didn't touch a drop. In fact, Tuesday was the first time I have ever known him to drink when he had her. I asked him why he did and he said, "No reason I could come up with would be satisfactory. I don't even know." I'm just trying to understand what he's going through.
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
I remember when I was younger and before I turned into the same kind of drinker I had always vowed to never be, my heart would be in my throat and I would be panic stricken when I would visit him. I never knew if I would find him dead or alive. My mother just enabled my dad's drinking. In fact, they enabled each other but it took my mother's life first at the age of 52. You would think that would stop my dad from drinking but that didn't happen until years later when he met a very nice woman who would not tolerate his drinking and the fear of losing her, stopped his drinking dead in it's tracts! Because of that, the rest of the family, loved his girfriend!
Now that they are both gone, I have learned to forgive. "Forgiveness is still, and quietly does nothing, it mere looks...and waits...and judges not!"
God Bless
Just as the path to sobriety is a journey, so too is the descent into alcoholism.
People who are in the early stages of alcoholism will find it easier to get sober if there is a strong enough reason. When it gets more advanced, no reason is good enough to make an alcoholic quit drinking. Your boyfriend may be using his willpower to fight against the urge to drink and willpower may be all that he needs if the condition is not too far advanced. For some alcoholics, drinking becomes such an obsession that they must have alcohol every day and they will find ways to justify drinking.
Regardless of how long J remains sober, if he is an alcoholic, one drink will set off a craving for more and could take him right back to incidents similar to the recent one. To put it simply, if he is not an alcoholic he can take a few drinks whenever he feels like as most people would do. If he is an alcoholic, he cannot drink safely, not even one drink.